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Blast from the Past: People Change

yeah, I know, I haven’t been around much…. I promise to get it together soon.

People change, but not always the way we want them to. I’m just going to throw that out there as a starting point.

I apologize if I’ve already told this story, or parts of this story. A long, long time ago I was a young student. Not a young, naive student. I don’t, actually, remember ever being naive. But I was young. And for a while I had this boyfriend who I’ll call D. D was very, very cute. And kinda not very bright. But very, very cute. He was a few years older than me and claimed to have graduated from a couple of years earlier (not the same school I went to) but I never entirely believed him because, as I already mentioned, he was kinda not very bright. I’d like to also mention that he was a really great guy, in a lot of ways. He volunteered at a local nursing home and was good to his family (babysat for his sister’s kids, for example). And the sex was great.

Anyway, we split up for a fairly mundane reason, but I never really regretted it. I didn’t see us having a future. Just lots of fun while it lasted.

Skip to a few years after I graduated when I get a call from my mom. D had called her and told her that he never stopped thinking about me and really wanted to get in touch with me (which translated in my mind to, he just got out of a relationship and was dreaming of gfs past). My mom didn’t give him my number, but she did take his for me. And I was curious (read – not seeing anyone special) and so I called him.

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  1. Catherine says:

    I like this post… interesting that even the sex changed!

    You know what’s funny is I have a post with the same title today :)
    http://simplysolo.wordpress.com/2010/09/21/blast-from-the-past/

    In my experience, we’ve both changed a lot (and our circumstances have changed) but when we were kissing, it felt just like yesterday…

  2. Black Iris says:

    Maybe I’m missing something, but really, he didn’t change. I’m not sure you changed all that much either, you just went further down the path you were already on from college to grad school. The change seems to me to be that you expect more from a guy than you did then. That and the sex.

  3. healy says:

    It think both of you changed. . .it’s kinda funny coz even sex change?lol

  4. Wendy says:

    I think that night for him it put the nail on the coffin. He can stop wondering about the what ifs. Its nice that you agreed to meet with him. Also, sometimes I astonish myself– I would think that good look trumps personality theoretically. But sometimes I find myself totally uninterested and turning down good looking men…and I think maybe I’m not that superficial after all.

  5. Everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, and things go wrong so that you can appreciate them when they go right.