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Blast from the Past: 7 Things A Guy Needs to Know About Picking An Online Dating Profile Picture

It’s the Friday before the Labor Day Weekend and it seems like half the US has started their long weekends early.  Not me. I’m working today. Sort of.

Today’s (rerun) post came to mind as I clicked on a totally hysterical email from one of the online services (who shall remain nameless, under the ‘if you can’t say anything nice’ rule).  This particular company has been sending me emails for a while, asking me to join (me and every other single blogger on the planet, I suspect). So I did. But then I took a quick look at their male members. OMG.  The pictures were ridiculous.  We’re talking monstrous.

But I didn’t cancel right away (wasn’t costing anything).  And every day they send me an email with new, monstrous pics. Now, I’m sure some of these are actually decent guys. And some of them might actually be OK looking IRL.  But the pictures are pathetic. Really and truly pathetic.  Which leads me to this…

7 Things A Guy Needs to Know About Picking An

  1. It’s best to have more than one picture.  Two is enough, 8 is too many.  At least one of them should show your face in close up.
  2. Use recent pictures.   Women want to know what you look like now, not 2 years ago.
  3. Remember to smile.  I won’t reply to a guy if he’s not smiling in at least one of his pics.
  4. The pictures that guys take in front of the mirror are usually pretty creepy.  Don’t do it.  It’s easy enough to take a picture of yourself w/o the mirror.  Better yet, ask a female friend to take a picture of you.  She’ll make sure you look your best.
  5. It’s not a good idea to include a picture of yourself without your shirt on (even if you have a hot bod) unless you’re seeking a strictly sexual relationship.
  6. Take off your freakin sunglasses.  We know you’re cool.  The headshots with the sunglasses are anything but.
  7. Show a little restraint – don’t use a “boy with toy*” shot.

*boy with toy shots are the ones with guys in sportscars, or skydiving, scuba diving, sailing, flying a small plane etc.

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  1. Guyliner says:

    I couldn’t agree more, especially with the recent photos point. On what planet is it a good idea to use a decade-old picture to sell yourself? Unless you’re turning up to the date with a time machine and a ticket to hook up with your younger self, don’t bother. And mirror shots are for sex sites, and even then totally horrible.

    You forgot one or two: be wary of putting up photos of you with friends. You must expect to be judged by the company you keep PLUS photos taken from far away just ring the ‘UGLY BRUTE’ alarm bells very quickly.

  2. Vendetta says:

    Couldn’t agree more with the list! I find the shirtless webcam shots to be simply creepy, I picture the guy sitting there looking at porn and dating sites and pleasuring himself, put a shirt on, take a decent photo.

  3. Gayle says:

    Funny!! My cousin uses pictures of himself posing with his “toys.” For example, he has one pic of himself, standing on top of his Hummer (with equally disturbing caption, making sure everyone knows it is his). Another thing he does is pose several different ways while he shoots his guns (meanwhile captioning how this is “me shooting my M16″ (or whatever gun it is).
    To me, this is disturbing, childish, and pathetic. I swear it just looks like he is screaming “look at me, look at me,” because he has no real redeaming qualities, or nothing real to offer in a relationship. WEIRD!!

    P.S. since I am his cousin, I know that his parents bought all of his toys, and they pay all of his bills since he doesn’t work, has never been married or had any children, and he is in his 40′s. I mean, who would want to date him if they knew the truth??

  4. Sandyvs says:

    The shirtless pics have been discussed extensively on one of the sites I frequent. It was even part of a study that showed shirtless pics get more messages. Pesonally, I think a lot of those messages are for them to put a shirt on. I feel that if a guy has at least a decent body, a shirtless pic of him at the beach, on a boat or in a pool is ok. If he doesn’t have a decent body, than shirtless will count against him.