I’ve written (many times) before about how much I hate dating by text. Most recently here. If a guy isn’t into long chats on the phone, that’s cool with me because neither am I. In fact, it’s kind of an issue when a guy does want to chat a lot on the phone. I’m just not that gabby.
But if he wants to make plans with me, I’d prefer he pick up the phone and speak with me. I want him to actually ask. To make the effort. Be a grown up. Sometimes. And if we’re seeing each other regularly/in a relationship, then I want that voice connection so that I can hear his inflection. Hear the difference between amused and annoyed without having to guess.
I’m a pretty low-maintenance chick, but this is something that really matters to me.
Anyway, some guys don’t get it. And YES, I think this is one area where age is a factor. Guys over 45, in my experience, are far more likely to pick up the phone and call. Even if they’re extremely busy. But younger guys seem to default to text almost all of the time. Even if they’ve got all the time in the world.
So… a while back I got what had to be the lamest, most pathetic text from a guy EVER. It was from someone who was clearly trying to play it cool. Note: Playing it cool is so not cool. Trying to let me know that he really wasn’t that interested. That he really didn’t care, one way or the other, if I replied.
Here is the beginning of the text, “I am at [name of airport] killing time, on my way to [place]. How are you?”
Oh yeah, please start a text by telling me that you are stuck at an airport, killing time. Because then I’ll know that you’re just bored and probably going through your contact list, texting everyone you know. Just killing time. Not actually wanting to reach out and contact ME. Because texting is such an effort, anyway.
Dude, no woman ever wants to hear, under any circumstance, that your reason for contacting her is that you’re killing time.
Dear Every Guy On the Planet, Please don’t bother. I am too good for you. That’s right, I said it. If that’s the best you can do, then I AM TOO GOOD FOR YOU. That is all.
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