Take this Sex Toy and Shove it!
I get a lot of, um, interesting things in my inbox. Like you wouldn’t believe. I try to stay on top of it all (it is a lot, and I’ve learned that sometimes it’s hard to quickly tell the wheat from the chaff) but mostly I fail.
Anyway, one of the more random things that showed up this week was a link to this post, The 7 Greatest Homemade Sex Toys For Men (no, I’m not making this up, people just email me this stuff).
So speaking of homemade sex toys, did I ever mention that years ago I dated a guy who was very into homemade sex toys? I’m not talking about using household objects as sex toys. I mean making/crafting toys from scratch. Out of raw materials – leather, feathers, rubber…
I have always had, and still have, a strict trash and burn policy when it comes to break-ups. When a relationship ends I get rid of all reminders of the ex in question (except for jewelry, I keep that). When I broke up with Mr. Homemade Sex Toys, I had to make a choice – what should I do about the toys he’d left at my place (as they were very much made for playing together). I gave him the option of picking them up (I tend to give guys a 48 hour window) and then tossed them in the trash. Note: I have been known to mail things back to men, without a final goodbye note. Random things on random occasions.
Sometimes I wish I hadn’t. A couple of them were really nice toys. But they were his. And it just would have been icky to keep them.
So, what about you? What do you do after a break-up?
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I would box it up, pay for the delivery and a copy of what I sent back, pic if possible (in case the ex is a douche).
I’ve only dated one guy and married him, but I’ve encountered a lot of douches in my life (exes of my friends).
I’ve only been in that situation once, and I boxed everything up (and there was quite a bit of stuff) that he’d given me and left it on his back porch with a note stating that I wanted nothing to do with someone I had no respect for. When I’m done, I’m done, so I would never tell him to come by and pick up his stuff. That’s what the mail services are for.
Most of the time, I’ve not had much left over from ex’s only because I have never really encouraged them to leave things at mine. I have received gifts from exs (soft toys, clothes, jewelry) which I have kept and not thrown away. I do not wear anything from an ex around a new guy cos that would just be weird in case the guy asks where I got it from !
A man I was absolutely head-over-heels with got sent an email asking him to return all MY things (specifically the toys we got together cos I was in a bitchy mood) which were at his house – of course he never responded to that; but I was the bigger person and sent back anything he’d left at mine .. I wonder sometimes if he still has them or if he threw them out. I did remove him from my social networks; blocked his email; deleted his phone number.
I didn’t however delete his pictures (or any other ex’s pictures) – only because I NEVER delete photos; any memory of them is now stored away on a HD that doesn’t get touched.
I once dropped off an old sex toy at Goodwill. Mainly on a dare from my girlfriend.
i trash must of it but keep certain things in a box with the rest of it.
I love your article for Homemade Sex Toys! As for after breakup, if the memories are not so good, I will offer these to my trash box but for some good memories, I can keep a few memorablia in my hidden attic box, just in case I want to remember good times.
Depends what it is of theirs, Mr. NY I threw his shirt away, no need to keep it, it was a wife beater that was 10 sizes too big for me. Brown, I mailed his sunglasses to him with a short note, like 3 lines, and that was that. I usually try to give them a chance to come get their stuff, then deal with it. If I can mail it, I do, if not, I trash it. Jewelry, I keep, always, HA! Take that jerkface for leaving it with me. I think I still have some CD’s that this stalker made me, but I don’t listen to them, they remind me of him and creep me out, probably should throw them away, or burn them or something.