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You Filthy Slut

I doubt there’s anyone reading this who hasn’t heard about Mel Gibson’s abusive, racist rants at his ex-girlfriend. The guy’s a real charmer.

But hardly one of a kind.

Be honest.  How many of us have found ourselves in relationships with men (or women) who we thought, at first, were really decent human beings only to realize that they sometimes turned into crazy, ranting assholes?

Come on, I know I’m not the only one.  There’s a reason the whole Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde story has such strong staying power. It’s hard to know, ever, what lurks beneath the surface of another person.  And sometimes what’s lurking is a hot-headed, irrational, abusive .

All that said, sometimes I wonder how rare these things are. Because when one of these cases comes to light (famous person is a raging lunatic) people act as if they’ve never heard of such of thing.  As if he’s the first verbally (in this case, probably physically abusive, too) person in the world.  When really, I’m thinking a lot of people have been in verbally abusive relationships. Sadly.

What about you.

Have you ever experienced verbal abuse?

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  1. Terry says:

    Ah verbal abuse – . Yes, we guys get it too.

    I lived with this gal for a bit, and I chalked her abusive attacks as “passion.” It was not passion – the abuse was a window a dark side that I didn’t want to admit was there. There were clues I should have seen – the way she handled other people, her kids, my business associates.

    The relationship ended – and the verbal abuse (now in occasional emails over a year later, that I don’t respond to) – continues.

    In concluded this- when someone is relentless to get you in a relationship – to the point of “stalking” — it isn’t passion, it isn’t love — it is evidence of an underlying borderline personality disorder. My blinders were up- my second brain was in control – and that is my short, and very sad story.

    On the up side – in six days my son is born, and my wife is the most wonderful lady in the world, and the reason she is with me is proof that love is, indeed, blind.

  2. snarkygurl says:

    I put ‘other’ because it was at the end of my marriage when we had been separated for over a year and unfortunately still living together to sort out the financial stuff and separation agreement. My ex was having a really hard time moving on and things were fine once he moved out, but boy it was a rough few months there.
    He had never been this way before and although I don’t condone it in any way, I understand it…

  3. Constance says:

    Never from my ex, only from a parent.