Anyway, we’re trying to set plans for next week. And he keeps suggesting that we take a ride out to the beach. And since NYC is in the midst of a dreadful heat wave, that sounds like a great idea for a date. A walk on the beach. Except for the whole ride thing.
He’s mentioned several times that he has a car (a luxury item in my world). And so he’s thinking we’ll hop in his car and drive out to the beach.
I’ve suggested alternative plans: A walk along the river. Not quite the same, but it will have to be good enough, as I don’t get into cars with men on the first date. It’s against my safety rules.
Which brings me to another topic. A couple of them, I guess.
Recently there was a tragic murder in the Philly area and the local press seized on the fact that the couple met online. Because online dating is this scary and scandalous thing and people should be afraid of it. Never mind the fact that recent data puts total US users of online dating sites at 40 million people, so we online daters are hardly a fringe group.
We live in a violent world, full of people who do horrible, violent things. Sucks. I am always mindful, when I date, that I’m meeting a stranger. Someone I don’t know and shouldn’t trust. And that I need to be careful. I feel this way about every date, not just guys I meet online. Because guys I meet online are no more or less likely to be horrible, violent predators than guys I meet anywhere else.
And FWIW, I’d just like to point out that a woman in the US is far more likely to be raped/assaulted on a college campus by someone she knows that by a man she meets via online dating.
Anyway, I’m meeting this new guy for a nice walk along the river. It’s a safe date that I feel comfortable with.
Tags: Online dating, online dating safety tips, Rape, rules