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Breaking My Rules

Breaking My Rules online dating dating update  1152064 78169907 1 217x300I have a tonight. A with a man I met online.

And we’re going out to dinner.

Now, anyone who’s been reading this for a while will know that this is something I NEVER do (notice the caps, bold and underline). I’m a let’s-meet-for-drinks gal. Or maybe coffee. Or a walk in the park. Something quick, cheap and easy so I can leave quickly if the guy turns out to be a total ass.

But… this is the way I’ve played the game for years.  And for years I’ve felt the rule served me well.  But maybe it hasn’t?  I don’t know. All I know is that I’m not so fabulous and perfect that I can’t admit that maybe I’ve been wrong.  Maybe the right response, when a man asks you out to dinner (and you want to meet him) is to say, “Yes”.  Instead of, “Could we make it drinks, instead“.

So this guy, tonight – is also a guy I might have said no to a couple of years ago. Attractive, smart as hell, funny, but a bit too metrosexual/fashionable for my taste (I’ve always found that I don’t mesh well with men who like to shop). However, I decided to go for it because of all of his good qualities.  And then he was amazing about the whole making-the-date process.  He asked me where I’d be at 7pm tonight. I told him the neighborhood.  He then selected one of the better (not most expensive, just better) restaurants in the ‘hood and suggested we meet there.

As I’ve mentioned before, I dig a guy with good planning skills.

So that’s it. I have a dinner date tonight.  It might suck and reaffirm my belief in the rule, but at least I’ll be at an awesome restaurant in my ‘hood.


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9 to “Breaking My Rules”


  1. Terry says:

    The woman who wants the control likes when it is taken. Are we not an interesting paradox

  2. Lan says:

    have fun tonight!

  3. Glad you’re breaking your rule, they’re made to be broken. Good luck!

  4. Lo says:

    It’s always great to step outside of our own self-imposed boundaries and try something new; hope you have a BLAST!

  5. Jolene says:

    I say go for it – you are following your gut! A broken rule once in awhile is a good thing…they are meant to be broken sometimes, right? :) Good luck!!

  6. Sandyvs says:

    I guess it helps not to have ‘rules’. Or to make ‘exceptions’ ( You know what I’m talking about here) to these rules. I just go with the flow on each guy. They should be contemplated on an individual basis, and do what feels right with each one. Enjoy, S

  7. LV says:

    Look forward to hearing about it! That’s normally my rule as well… but if I have a REALLY good vibe about a guy beforehand, I’ll break it.