It’s been a little more than 3 months since I started to use Match and Chemistry (and stopped using OkCupid and nerve.com). The time flew by, and to be honest, I haven’t made the most of my memberships. I could have/should have spent more time working at it. Especially Chemistry, which really encourages members to spend time exchanging info, short questions/answers, details all before you start sending messages.
I’m the first person to say that online dating takes effort. My efforts over the past 3 months have been inconsistent at best.
At first, I was relatively serious about it and I did meet Mr. Midwest on match. He’s a good guy, despite the fact that we didn’t work out. If I knew a woman who I thought would get along well with him, I wouldn’t think twice about setting them up.
Then I took a little break from the game… And then, well. I meant to get back into it but life got in the way.
So here’s where I am now: I’ve recently started to communicate with several men on Match. I’ll write more on them, their specifics, later in the week. I’m out of town for the next couple of weeks which leaves plenty of time for any or all of them to disappear or not (let’s be honest, people flake). Maybe I’ll continue to exchange messages with all of them or even chat a bit on the phone and I’ll have a string of dates set up for when I get to town. That would be nice. My 3 months freebie on match ran out last week and I bought myself a brand new 3 months membership. So there’s that. I’ve invested. I’m invested. And hopeful.
As for Chemisty, I’m pulling the plug on that experiment. While I have nothing but respect for Dr. Helen Fisher, I really don’t like the way the site is designed and works. It moves so slow. And the men on the site all seem to move slow, too (I don’t need to exchange tons of info before talking/going out on a date – I see online dating as online meeting).
Tags: chemistry, chemistry.com, Match, OKCupid