Anyway, these two guys both started calling me in the past week. Each with his own apologies and reasons for not calling sooner.
Whatever. I didn’t care about the delay (as I couldn’t remember offering my number). If they’d called sooner, I wouldn’t have been interested/available, anyway.
Guy #1 came off as nervous and a bit timid on the phone, but then my memory got jogged and I remembered all of these interesting things about him. And he was super-tenacious. If I was unavailable/busy when he called, he just called back later. And then later again. And I do appreciate tenacity as a character trait. So we’re going out on Wednesday (plus, he called with a really great date plan – I like a guy with a plan).
But this post isn’t about Guy #1. It’s about Guy #2.
I was predisposed to like Guy #2 based on what I knew about him. I guess you could say that he sounded like a keeper. And he was confident and funny on the phone. I enjoyed talking with him and was thinking that I’d certainly go out with him.
Until he blew it.
We’d been talking for about 15 minutes and I said something about needing to go. He asked if I’d be interested in meeting up for a drink. I said yes. That I’d be available later in the week.
So then he starts babbling about his schedule and what he has going on each day. I’m thinking, I don’t care, call me when you know when you’re available and ask me out. Then he says, do you ever IM?
Now, I’ve written about this before. I am VERY anti-IM when it comes to men I haven’t met yet. It’s one of the few rules I actually follow all of the time. I’ll IM with friends, or men I’m dating. But not men I haven’t met yet. Nope.
My reasons for this are two-fold. 1) In my experience, IM chats with men you haven’t met yet have a high likelihood of getting naughty (as people are much braver via IM than they’d be on the phone or in person). 2) The speed helps to create a false sense of security, like it’s someone you’ve known for a while.
So I told him no, I never IM. And then he asks me if I’ll be around tomorrow night for a phone call (mind you, a few minutes earlier he’d asked if I’d meet him out for a drink). I said that I might be, I didn’t know (because at this point, after the mention of IM, my interest was waning).
I can’t recall the exact words he used, otherwise I’d quote him, but he then said something about giving me a call tomorrow night (tonight) and if I was home we can have a sexy talk. Yes, I am quite sure he used the word sexy. Which is why I won’t be answering the phone when he calls.
For the record (and anyone who’s confused), I’m all for dirty talk with someone I’m dating. I’ve gone so far as to email naughty pics to a significant other who’s away on a long trip. And, I have no issue with sexting (other than that ridiculous phrase – sexting). But I have ZERO interest in having a sexy talk with someone prior to our first date. ZERO.
I gotta say, I’m a little disappointed. I wanted to like this guy. Oh well.
Tags: apology, character, rules