Comments on: Dead or Alive

By: CJ

CJ — Wed, 28 Apr 2010 20:39:33 +0000

Eh, it depends. I’m incredibly close with one ex, but our situation was unique: we’d been together for two years, loved each other, but had both been drifting apart romantically for awhile. We broke up by mutual agreement, and remained friends ever since. I’m going to be in his wedding next year and couldn’t be more pleased.

I’m friendly with other exes, but we don’t really communicate or hang out.

I live a relatively drama-free life.

By: Laurenolauren

Laurenolauren — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 19:46:10 +0000

when I brake up with someone they dont even exist anymore I dont speak to them in public nothing, i’ve closed that chapter. If i couldnt date you why should i be friends with you? If we could have been friends we would have been friends from before.
The good thing is I have no kids so i cant delete the person from my phone book and my life!!!! thank God

By: Dazediva

Dazediva — Sat, 24 Apr 2010 06:32:29 +0000

I voted that it depends on the details of the break-up. Over the years, I’ve found myself being friends with some of my exes. If the relationship wasn’t particularly serious and the break up was mutual, we’ve remained friends .. actually I’ll rephrase and say ‘acquaintances’ i.e. we will communicate randomly via FB or Email on birthdays.

There are a few exes where we are actually friends, have regular conversations, and are just happy for each other. One of them is married, and I was even invited for his wedding. Now I just need to make sure his wife likes me haha

The most recent ex from 2 years ago, who I was head over heels in love with and wanted to marry .. well we broke up, actually he broke up with me because his ‘bro & sis didn’t like me’ … yeah he’s DEAD to ME ..

So it really just depends on how the relationship ended and if both people are mature enough to pursue a friendship after that.

By: Amy

Amy — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 03:54:54 +0000

Aside from being dishonest with me, the quickest way to become dead to me is if you don’t leave me alone after dumping me. I make it clear, “the only way we can be friends is if we take time and space apart. I have to be 100% over you. Right now, I am far too emotionally attached to you, and attempting a friendship will just keep me attached, confuse me, and prevent me from moving on. When I am ready, I will let you know, and I will have no ulterior motives. Please, give me the space I need to heal.” The only ones who I’ve managed to keep in my life are the ones who have listened. It takes several months space, not days or weeks. The only way I can be friends is if I could see her with another guy, shake his hand, wish them both well and genuinely mean it without feeling jealous or inadequate. Anything less is not a friendship.

By: Debi

Debi — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 02:12:49 +0000

Well I started teh friendship pocition @ breakup. However changed due to the actions of the ex. Lucky he did walk in front of my car…lol