Recently I wrote about the only dating sites I’m currently using (match.com and chemistry) and why. But of course, that led to people sending me question about other sites.
So, let’s just get it all out there (and hopefully people will dive in with their experiences in the comments).
There are dozens of online dating sites out there. Dozens. Some of them have hundreds of members, and some of them have millions of members. And some are free and some cost a lot of money. I’m certainly not an expert on the industry, but I’ve probably tried more sites than most people.
So here are some more of my random thoughts. My least favorite sites are Plenty of Fish and Adult Friend Finder. Plenty of Fish has millions of users (it’s free, so…) and so I’m sure there are plenty of decent folks there. But the majority of guys who contacted me were just kinda trashy. They sent one line messages like, “i think ur hot. call me ### “.
Adult Friend Finder was just a little too aggressive for my taste. I thought it might be a good way to meet someone casual (I know someone who met their significant other there, FWIW). But the messages I got all seemed to come with pictures of penises. I’ve had pretty much similar experience with other sites geared towards casual sex. My feeling is that it’s just as easy to meet someone interested in casual sex on a site like nerve, and there I don’t have to look at pics of ugly naked guys.
I know a lot of people like the “specialized” sites of Spark networks – JDate, BlackSingles, ChristianMingle, Catholic… and I tried out that network a few years ago and loathed it. It just wasn’t my thing. Which doesn’t mean that there aren’t dozens of people everyday who meet there and fall in love.
There are some smaller, start-up sites that seem like they could have a shot of doing well. I’m hopeful for them because I think online dating is an industry that could use some shaking up. Some sites to check out: Dating Revolution and Date Dispatch. I’m also somewhat fascinated by Thread and Gelato.
Lastly (gosh, I feel like I’m giving a lecture here), I want to give a quick shout out to the new mobile dating sites. I love the idea behind Urban Signals (and similar sites – I hear grindr is hot with the gays) and have it on my iphone. I am a little neurotic about actually using it, though. Something about GPS technology freaks me out.
So in conclusion, dear friends, there really are lots of online dating choices out there, with new ones popping up all the time. And smart people are finding ways to integrate online dating into other platforms and technologies. So the next time I hear someone say that, “I tried online dating, once, and it didn’t work for me,” I’m going to smack that person.
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