OK, let me start out by saying that until a couple of years ago I pretty much never read girly mags. Not that there’s anything wrong with them. I think they’re lots of fun. I just didn’t. I worked a gazillion hours a week (at my old career) and in my leisure time I read other things.
So if there were a heap of stories about women not getting married, having trouble finding husbands, having issues with marriage as an expectation that they’d rather not play into, learning to be happy as single adults, etc, I might not have noticed. I was pretty oblivious to that kind of stuff. So maybe this is a topic that’s been in the news for years and years and years.
All that said, it seems to me that this is a relatively new thing. A trend. That every week there is a fresh crop of articles and posts on these topics. A couple of really thoughtful ones from the past week were Jezebel’s Marriage: Not the Singular Goal Of All Womanity by Jenna Sauers, and The Frisky’s Why is Everyone So Happy I’m In A Relationship? by Kimberlee Auberbach. And that maybe all of these articles, and their counterparts – the fresh crop of books and articles restating that women need to wake up and realize that feminism has destroyed their lives and that they should stop seeking self-fulfillment before it’s too late, are all part of a big cultural shift.
I’d like to think that sometime in the next year or two, after everyone is done being self-righteous and offended, maybe there will be room for some more good honest dialogue. About how women of all ages and backgrounds have been able to construct happy lives for themselves in this utterly bizarre and constantly changing world we live in. Or maybe we’ll just get more polarized? Anything is possible.
Tags: career, jezebel, marriage, The Frisky