It’s funny, I’m always so afraid to write the same stuff over and over, for
fear of being repetitive. Well, I am repetitive. The subject matter I cover here on this blog is pretty narrow. I try not to be too repetitive.
Anyway, twice in the last week I’ve been specifically asked to talk about online dates sites – which ones I use(d) and why. Now, I’ve written about that before, many times. But most people who read this blog are either new or casual readers. I shouldn’t expect folks to go digging around my (very messy, still) archives.
So here’s the short answer. Right now I’m using match.com and chemistry.com. This is new-ish for me and part of a new relationship I have with match.com. I”m going to be doing different promos with them during the year (like the Valentine’s Day giveaway). And they comped me a 3 month membership. But they’re not paying me and I’m going to be honest about my experiences with both sites.
So far, I’ve been pleasantly surprised. My last experience with match was a disaster. It was all middle-aged seeming, cranky divorced guys and/or guys who lived way out in the ‘burbs. This time I’ve connected with a couple of guys who seem really kinda great and I’m looking forward to meeting them.
Chemistry is slow going, and I’m still not sure how I feel about it. There seem to be some cool/interesting men on the site, but it does take a lot of time to get to the “email” stage. I’m sticking with it, though.
I’ve recently given up on OkCupid. I like the site and feel it has a lot of positives. But I also feel like I’ve exhausted the pool of men I might be interested in and don’t want to deal with the daily messages from guys I want nothing to do with. Who has time for that?
Lastly, after many years of luck and fun, I’ve given up on nerve.com. They’re part of the fastcupid network and there are many sites that feed into that main database (depending on where you live, nerve may be the largest feeder, or may not even be on the radar). I am officially too old for the men there. I actually went a whole week without a single message, and well, that never happened to me before/when I was younger (I do have recent pictures and so maybe I’m just not hot enough anymore, but I think it’s the age on the profile and not the pics).
So that’s it. I’m sure people from other places, of other ages have very different experiences. I’m actually trying to get a forum page going so that people can chat openly about this stuff. But I can’t start that until I make final design choices and I’m still dithering on that. I cannot make up my mind about this stuff to save my life. One day, I promise, you’ll click on me and it will all be done/look done.
OK, so maybe that wasn’t the short answer.
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