I can’t speak for anyone else, but for me, one of the big moments in any relationship is when I meet a guy’s friends. And perhaps, even more so, when I arrange for him to meet my friends. It means a lot to me, what my closest friends think of the men in my life. I want them to like my guy(s). To approve of my choices.
Which is absolutely and completely absurd. Because I know from experience that my friends will hold back on anything they’re afraid might hurt me (the, what were you thinkings always come after the breakup). Instead, they’ll do their best to find something to like about a guy. A positive trait. A characteristic they can honestly praise. Or failing that, I’ll hear, “I’m glad he makes you happy”.
This is what I was thinking the other day as a friend told me that his girlfriend’s best friends hated him, told her they hated him AND that it was affecting their otherwise happy relationship (these are, in fact, all adults over the age of 30, in case you were wondering).
Grown women have told one of their BFFs (a phrase I loathe, sorry, but it’s convenient) that they find her boyfriend unsuitable and that she should break up with him. And, here’s the kicker, she’s thinking about it. Thinking of ending her relationship. Because their opinions mean that much to her.
And, well, I gotta be honest. If one of my closest friends actually came out and said, “I know you’re crazy about him but I think he’s bad for you,” I might start to rethink my relationship.
There is a poll question in here somewhere. Maybe 2 or 3. But for starters, here’s what I’d like to know – Would you/do you tell your friends your honest opinion about their new boy/girlfriend(s)?
Tags: break up, friends, girlfriend, guy, poll, relationship