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Ping Ping Ping (Enough Already)

All morning long that’s all I’ve been hearing: ping, ping, ping.  It’s the sound my iphone makes every time I get a new message and it’s driving me crazy.

What’s caused this flood of new emails, you ask?  Well, last night I refreshed my accounts with and . As I mentioned, Match.com is giving me a free 3 month membership. As the same company also owns Chemistry, I thought it would be fun/interesting/make a few good posts to take advantage of their generosity and give that a whirl, too.  This way I’ll be using both sites at the same time and can give you all a sense of the differences between the two sites…

So late last night I updated my profiles and uploaded new pics. These are not glamour shots. These are the same, this is me with minimal make-up shots I use on other dating sites.  And all of a sudden I have several dozen men messaging me.

This has nothing to do with me, as far as I’m concerned.  I’m “fresh meat”. These guys have been looking at the same faces for however long they’ve been members.  So, of course, the new chick is going to get attention.  Men are just like that (no offense guys, but you are).  And it’s the week before Valentine’s Day.  And whether most guys will admit it or not, they’re just as likely to be affected by that shit as women are.

I can still remember, a few years ago, this guy on one site who was crazy-desperate for a date for New Year’s Eve.  He’d bought tickets to a seriously expensive party and was overtly advertising for a date to the ball (so to speak).   He messaged me and a couple women I knew, too. I don’t get people, how was he going to feel less lonely if some total stranger said yes?

Anyway, I don’t have time to deal with this all today.  I started to look at them, but they keep coming.  I think I’m gonna wait until the end of the day and try to make it through them all in one sitting.

Speaking of online dating and Valentine’s Day, I was exchanging messages last night with a guy I met last week (or maybe it was just a couple days ago) and right now he seems too good to be true.  Perfect on paper and hot (I didn’t trust his pictures, which really did seem too good to be true and so I checked out his FB and other online stuff and nope, he really is hot). He asked me if I was around this weekend.  I haven’t gotten back to him on that yet, because the answer is yes. I am around this weekend and I do have some, not a lot, but some free time. I don’t, however, want to get together with him until after Valentine’s Day is over.  Not that I care much about the day.  I think it’s one of those “made up by Hallmark” days.  But I’d rather just have our first date be after Vday.

Of course, by stalling I risk him meeting someone else and falling madly in love with her.  Que sera sera.


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  1. Hey, it’s good to know what you will be doing at the end of the day at least.

    • Simone Grant says:

      Yes, I guess. I was supposed to go to a party, but I’m honestly just exhausted. I’d rather stay in at this point and bulldoze through these. Besides, my next boyfriend might be waiting in my inbox.

  2. Jolene says:

    Nice!! Can’t wait to hear how your dates go. I tried out chemistry.com myself, during the free weekend they had recently. Interesting, I liked it. And I agree on the anti-v-day first date thing. Just WEIRD.

    • Simone Grant says:

      I’ll keep you up to date. I did a free week with them a while ago and didn’t hate it, but also didn’t continue because I wasn’t sure it was worth the investment. Fingers crossed.


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