It occurred to me the other day that if I could order up my “perfect man”, my dream guy, I’d have absolutely no idea where to start. Sure, I need him to be kind and smart and funny and ethical. And we need to be able to have FUN together (of both the sexual and non-sexual variety). But I don’t really have a physical image for him. Not anymore.
I gotta assume that this puts me in the minority. My friend KB in NYC just wrote a post about some of her dealbreakers in which it’s clear that she has a vision of what her guy looks like (tall, stylish, great teeth). Plenty of women chimed in with amens and their own thoughts (lots of women seem to be into really tall guys).
I used to not be attracted to guys with facial hair. Then I fell head over heels for a guy with a big, nasty beard. And I used to hate tattoos, but a few dozen guys with tattoos later and I’m ok with those, too. I don’t have any specific height requirement (except that guys more than 13 inches taller than me, or so, make me uncomfortable). I guess the only physical requirement I have is “not horribly out of shape”. Spare tires are fine, but chubby is another thing entirely.
Anyway, my point here is that I really am at the point of my life where I take each guy as an individual. A whole. And I either like him as a whole or not. And that there isn’t one trait (height, hair color, lack of hair, bad shoes…) that is going to make me rule him out as possible dating material. I either think he’s hot or not.
Speaking of hot or not, I’m guessing that most of my readers have set tastes. List of dealbreakers that they can easily drawn upon to order themselves a picture of the perfect man or woman.
Tags: dealbreaker, poll, sex