Comments on: The Power of Language http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2010/02/05/the-power-of-language/ Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 06:55:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Simone Grant http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2010/02/05/the-power-of-language/comment-page-1/#comment-6347 Simone Grant Mon, 08 Feb 2010 23:32:34 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/?p=7048894#comment-6347 There's nothing wrong with being a sap for love. I am , too, in my own way. I'm not particularly interested in having a relationship with anyone I'm not deeply in love with. I also know that love is not enough, but I won't settle for less than love. There’s nothing wrong with being a sap for love. I am , too, in my own way. I’m not particularly interested in having a relationship with anyone I’m not deeply in love with. I also know that love is not enough, but I won’t settle for less than love.

]]> By: Simone Grant http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2010/02/05/the-power-of-language/comment-page-1/#comment-6346 Simone Grant Mon, 08 Feb 2010 23:30:13 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/?p=7048894#comment-6346 Black Iris, I can totally see that. I know several single moms (some by choice and some by circumstance) and I see how hard it is for them). I can totally imagine how a single mom might wish she'd done things differently. And I probably would be far more sympathetic to her if she was saying, strictly, I wish I'd done things differently. I should have focused on marriage when I was younger so that I could have had a partner to raise my child with. Black Iris,
I can totally see that. I know several single moms (some by choice and some by circumstance) and I see how hard it is for them). I can totally imagine how a single mom might wish she’d done things differently.

And I probably would be far more sympathetic to her if she was saying, strictly, I wish I’d done things differently. I should have focused on marriage when I was younger so that I could have had a partner to raise my child with.

]]> By: Black Iris http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2010/02/05/the-power-of-language/comment-page-1/#comment-6336 Black Iris Mon, 08 Feb 2010 19:00:56 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/?p=7048894#comment-6336 I think the book's title is insulting to guys. I would hate to be married to someone who said they "settled" for me and that I was "Ms. Good Enough." I like getting e-mails addressed to "love of my life." I consider my husband my best friend and the perfect man for me. I was attracted to him the first time I saw him. I can't imagine staying together this long and through so many ups and downs without love. I guess I'm a sap for love. But I just want to add to the conversation that a woman who got married in her late 20s and has been married a zillion years, DOES NOT think that single women should just settle. I think the book’s title is insulting to guys. I would hate to be married to someone who said they “settled” for me and that I was “Ms. Good Enough.” I like getting e-mails addressed to “love of my life.” I consider my husband my best friend and the perfect man for me. I was attracted to him the first time I saw him. I can’t imagine staying together this long and through so many ups and downs without love.

I guess I’m a sap for love. But I just want to add to the conversation that a woman who got married in her late 20s and has been married a zillion years, DOES NOT think that single women should just settle.

]]> By: Black Iris http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2010/02/05/the-power-of-language/comment-page-1/#comment-6335 Black Iris Mon, 08 Feb 2010 18:54:23 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/?p=7048894#comment-6335 I think one reason Gottlieb ended up wishing she'd settled for an earlier boyfriend was that she became a single mother. She discovered that it was really too much work. I think she was also disillusioned to discover that as a mom she didn't have time to date anymore and she began to wonder if she would ever find a husband. As a mom, I don't think it is possible to really make it easy to be a single mother. Being married when you have kids makes life so much better. Before I had kids, I don't think I realized how important it would be. So I can half understand where she's coming from. I think one reason Gottlieb ended up wishing she’d settled for an earlier boyfriend was that she became a single mother. She discovered that it was really too much work. I think she was also disillusioned to discover that as a mom she didn’t have time to date anymore and she began to wonder if she would ever find a husband.

As a mom, I don’t think it is possible to really make it easy to be a single mother. Being married when you have kids makes life so much better. Before I had kids, I don’t think I realized how important it would be. So I can half understand where she’s coming from.

]]> By: Black Iris http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2010/02/05/the-power-of-language/comment-page-1/#comment-6333 Black Iris Mon, 08 Feb 2010 18:50:26 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/?p=7048894#comment-6333 Yes! That is exactly what I thought after reading the essay. Gottlieb needed to change her standards, but that doesn't mean everyone else in the world should take the first guy they can get. Yes! That is exactly what I thought after reading the essay. Gottlieb needed to change her standards, but that doesn’t mean everyone else in the world should take the first guy they can get.

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