As I mentioned recently, I haven’t been doing too well on nerve.com. Still getting attention from guys in their 20s, 50s and 60s, but not so much from the men in their late 30s and 40s - the ones I’d want to date. Things are different over on OkCupid. There are still plenty of candidates, but I just haven’t been feeling it lately (and truthfully, I haven’t checked my inbox in days, even though I know there are a dozen new messages there). My last few OkC dates have left me feeling less than optimistic.
I think it’s time I reassessed the situation. Not give up on online dating, but maybe reassess my previous assumptions about guys and types and different online dating sites.
This is actually something I’ve been thinking about for a while. I’m in a different demographic group, now. I’ll be 40 in a few months (May, for anyone who’s interested). And it doesn’t really matter that I look younger. I am nearly 40. I’m a grown up (kinda, sorta). And I want to date grown ups.
So where is all of this leading to? Well, a lot of places. For starters, I completely ditched the guy from the worst great date ever (he kept writing and calling – but never leaving messages, how freakin childish). For a while I was considering giving him another chance. But then I asked myself a simple question – Does he have his shit together, and if not, is he trying to get it together? The answer was NO. And so I won’t be seeing him again.
That’s what being a grown up (kinda, sorta) means to me. Having your shit together, or trying to get it together. We all go through rough patches. And some of us have some pretty powerful inner demons. But grown ups try to get themselves together.
Anyway, babbling. Need more coffee and cold medicine. Or maybe more coffee and less cold medicine.
So he didn’t pass my new, Is he a grown up? test.
Moving on, I’ve decided to go in search of MORE MEN who might pass the test.
Strangely enough, just as I was having all of these thoughts, I was contacted by a PR agency. They are coordinating a series of promos and giveaways (and stuff) for a client. An online dating site that I haven’t had the greatest luck with in the past. Although, honestly, I also haven’t given them much of an opportunity to prove themselves. Just a week here and a week there. A month several years ago.
Anyway, you can all see what I’m leading up to. I’ve decided to give match.com another try. Partly because I was thinking of it anyway (funny enough, most of the guys I’ve met on “other” sites and went out with for any length of time have also had profiles on match) and partly because this PR agency came to me with this proposal. I figured maybe it was the universe telling me – YES, do this, give match.com another shot.
So, let’s get down to some stuff. Full disclosure – I will be getting a free 3 month membership. There will be no financial compensation (in other words, match isn’t paying me to write nice things about them so if I have a negative experience, I’ll say so). AND, I get to kick off this new relationship with a fun giveaway for Valentines Day (not normally a day I celebrate, but who doesn’t like giveaways?).
I’ll be writing a post about the giveaway later today. I promise it will be shorter and less rambling than this one. Seriously, I need more coffee.
Tags: Match, nerve.com, OKCupid