It went really poorly.
At first it was fun, looking at guys’ profiles for someone else. I’d send her a bunch (trying to remember to look at their heights, because she’s 9 inches taller than me and so height is a factor for her) and hope that she approved. But I found myself being really picky, because I didn’t want to recommend just anyone to her. I wanted them to seem like really awesome guys.
And I got genuinely upset when she then wrote to some of these awesome seeming guys and they didn’t write back. Which is ridiculous because I don’t care a bit when guys don’t write me back.
Meanwhile, she kept sending suggestions my way. And much to my embarrassment I’d already gone out with a bunch of them. And, of course, some of the “good ones” that she did recommend, the ones I hadn’t been out with yet, didn’t bother to write me back.
NOT a good experiment.
Both of us continued to shop for guys for ourselves, and we both had rocky months as far as that goes. The one thing I know for sure is that I’m pretty much done with nerve.com. I was so successful there for so many years, but I am now officially too old for that site. I still get messages from guys in their 50s and 60s and 20s. But it’s the end of the month and the only 40 something men I’ve had contact with on nerve live in other parts of the country (those long distance guys are sweet, but). Oh, and him. It’s not that there’s a dearth of guys in their 40s, from NYC, on the site. There are literally thousands of them. And last year, and the years before, I was swimming in them. But not now.
I’m going to make the assumption that it has to do with my age, as not much else has changed about me. Or maybe it’s something else? Who knows?
So it wasn’t a great month in the dating game. It wasn’t a win. But I didn’t “lose” either.
Tags: 40, dating game, lucky girl, nerve.com, online dating profiles