She’d met a man online and they’d been chatting and she quite liked him. And was ready for him to ask her out. More than ready. And it’s been her experience that men don’t like it when women do the asking (she lives in the South). So as much as she wanted to hurry things along, she felt she was stuck. Waiting. For him to ask.
I’ve been in similar situations. Well, somewhat similar. I certainly don’t live in the South, and I’ve asked guys out plenty of times in my life. But not men I meet online. I tend to want them to do the asking. To show me that they are actually interested in having an offline relationship. That they’re real. That they’re not just some bored guy who’s looking for a secret thrill when no one’s looking at the office, making up stories about himself.
So I have a pretty strict 2 week rule. If I meet a guy online and he doesn’t step up within the first two weeks and at least suggest getting together then I assume it’s not going to happen and move on. Sure there are exceptions. People go out of town. People get insanely busy for one reason or another. But, in general, I give guys 2 weeks. And then I move on.
BTW, Starangel wrote (I’m paraphrasing) that if you wait too long before a first date you get stuck in the friend zone. This has never once crossed my mind. Not sure what to make of that.
What about you? Do you have hard and fast rules about this stuff?
Tags: poll, rules