Comments on: My Date With the Very, Very Nice Man

By: Kayle

Kayle — Sun, 11 Sep 2011 17:56:38 +0000

I think the big difference is that a LOT of people in the nice camp never have been introduced to critical thinking or even the bulk of our other, more “shallow” stuff and certainly not our deeper experiences and perspectives we’ve evolved because of them. Sometimes it makes communicating even on a surface level totally impossible. that’s where they’re fundamentally different and can’t really get us excited. It’s just boring.
We’re looking for more than just someone to fulfill a role or make us feel loved in an abstract way (to us. because kittens and fluffy bunnies and “nice hugs” and hallmark cards are like mrhuh? to do with who we are). We’re looking for someone who adds something to the experience of life that justifies choosing being paired over being alone. Most people don’t need that or look for it. They would just prefer not to be alone (and appreciate fluffy bunnies kittens and cetera). We would prefer to be alone rather than give up time and energy without feeling it’s reciprocated in a way we can use/appreciate. And also tend to feel that nice guys deserve someone who can appreciate them to.

By: Kayle

Kayle — Sun, 11 Sep 2011 17:46:40 +0000

OMFG, this is the first person who’s nailed it. Can you please fix the entire self-help genre and stop their “she just likes being abused and is a sicko” bullcrap??

The other hting that is hindering decent matches is that people actually believe this crap themselves and go hunting for particular groups according to stereotypes instead of growing up and knowing people. It’s a rather nasty cycle.

And hi. late in the game.

By: DakotaGrey

DakotaGrey — Wed, 26 Jan 2011 23:58:51 +0000

I just read this, and I have to say it’s so true! I like you have a streak of picking the bad ones. There is nothing wrong with Group B and you tell yourself all the time to be with Group B but like you, I just can’t. Your minds don’t sync and after a while (for me a very very short while) 5 get incredbily bored with Group B. I’ve never been that type of ‘good girl’ to sit down and play wifey from the start. Not me will never be me. And the Group A guys play into that bad side. Which unfortunately has its expiration date marked from the start. But none the less I keep going back to the group A puddle…and I have a Psych degree! ha, could never figure that one out.

What it comes down to for me is the challenge. If a guy is a push over and there’s no challenge to it, im bored, next. Even if they are the sweetest guy. I’m still bored. Group A guys master the challenege and I’m hooked.

Thank you for sharing your stories! I love them!

By: LushFun

LushFun — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 00:11:00 +0000

going to quote ya:
“I’ve tried, really I have, to have relationships with guys in Group B. And it just can’t work. Our brains just work too differently. I challenge everything. I’m always asking WHY.”

Think of the most bitter thing I could say… and put it in the context of age, opportunity, and actual reality. Choice is elusive here today gone tomorrow, alas it is ignored. People are delusional at times at to what they can achieve.

By: V

Sun, 31 Oct 2010 18:41:06 +0000

I was a rebel as a teenager. One that was famous. I sure as hell am not Nice but would give a poor kid 20 Bucks Happily. Lets talk!!