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Bah Humbug

It’s the 23rd of December and for the past few weeks everywhere I’ve gone I’ve been bombarded with holiday cheer.  My mailbox is stuffed with pretty holiday cards and all of my email inboxes have been flooded by people who want me to have a happy holiday.

I say Bah Humbug.

I’ve always been anti-holiday.  Not just the Christmukkah variety. New Year’s, V-day, my birthday, pretty much anything where a celebration, spending money and extra enthusiasm is required.

And of course these things are harder when I’m completely single.  Last year I was dating someone this time of year, but it didn’t make it any easier.  Instead there was a little crisis because he bought me a gift and I didn’t buy him one and then we were vague about New Year’s and…  Dating someone during the holidays can be as stressful as being completely stressful.

So can being in a relationship.  For me, at least.

I think there are just some holiday loving people and some of us who can’t/don’t get it.  Who’d rather it just be another day.

So no poll from me today.  No suggestions about “surviving the holidays” as a single person (I so don’t get that in theory).  Just me being crabby.  I don’t know if anyone can relate and I don’t want to pop anyone’s happy holiday bubble. But just in case there’s someone else out there thinking, enough already with the holiday stuff…

ps  Randomly, one of my all time fave movies is It’s a Wonderful Life.  But I don’t really get how that’s a Christmas movie.  Well I do, but I don’t.  And some of my fondest memories of childhood are of walking up 5th Avenue (in the weeks before Christmas) with my parents to see the store windows.  But I associate that with my love of New York, not Christmas.

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  1. sfsingleguy says:

    I’m right there with you on the holiday views Simone :)

  2. mateeeee says:

    “those brightly packaged tinsel covered, Christmas Blues!”

  3. LaNouvelle says:

    Agreed. I just don’t get it. And I really wish it were just another day so that I could go on my run with my running group, yoga with my girlfriend, and then out to a regular bar that I frequent without having to buy a special NYE ticket. I’m bah humbug too, and I just don’t see anything wrong with it! I am not religious at all; I am wondering if maybe being religious would help (not that I going to go out and get a religion at this point in my life).

  4. pups4me says:

    I agree with you SG…I wish it were just a regular day. I struggle with how the holidays have become so focused on spending $$ on gifts people don’t need or want.
    Too much stress and pressure to have a wonderful time with family–it all leads to a huge let down, because let’s face it, family dynamics are tough.
    I think many people get depressed during the holidays because they think everyone else is having a great time except them…but really, is anyone having a great time???

  5. Simone Grant says:

    Well, I guess I’m glad to know it’s not just me. LaNouvelle (welcome, btw) I think it would be very different if we were religious. But then, most people aren’t. It seems to be about “tradition” and I’ve never been very good with that. pups4me, sometimes I wonder that , too- Is anyone having a great time? I’m sure some people are. But not everyone. Some people are pressured and broke and miserable. Oh, the things we humans do to one another.