Not long after that first date, I made plans to meet another guy from nerve for coffee. Unlike my “regular” dates with men I meet online, I made it a practice of always meeting guys who were interested in NSA for coffee/during the day. I didn’t think they were more dangerous, or anything like that. I just figured I was being more cautious. This one looked exactly like his picture and we had instant chemistry.
Only one problem, he was kinda a douchebag. Now, if it were a normal date and I was trying to decide whether of not I “liked” the guy I would never have agreed to see him again. Never. But it wasn’t. And quite frankly, it never occurred to me that I might a) meet someone with whom I had good chemistry b) think he was a jerk c) decide to fuck him anyway, as it was just NSA sex. But all of a sudden I found myself telling him that I’d love to see him sometime soon, and we both knew what that meant.
A few nights later we did see each other again. And the sex was good. Not great, but good. And he was an even bigger douchebag than I remembered. I tried to ignore it/him, but there are those 5-15 minutes before and after and…
Anyway, I saw him a couple of more times before I decided I had to call an end to it. It’s one thing to have occasional sex with an ex who’s a dick because the sex is great. It’s another thing altogether to have occasional sex with a guy you just met who’s a dick because the sex is good. It left me feeling pathetic. Settling for (good) sex with someone I didn’t like or respect was just not good for my self-esteem.
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