To be completely honest, it took a while before I turned to the internet. Even though I’d been using online dating sites for years, the thought of using an online dating site to find a fuckbuddy kinda freaked me out at first. It seemed, IDK, just a little bit scary.
So before I went shopping online, I turned to the men I knew IRL. I did not, at any point, consider trolling the bars of Manhattan in the hopes of picking someone up. I’d met plenty of guys in bars, in the past. I’d had some one night stands and dated some of them, too. But that was in the past. I knew that I wanted my fuckbuddy to be my age or older, and I wasn’t going to find someone I liked, who met that qualification, hanging out in a bar.
There was one man I knew who I knew would be interested. And, more important to me at the time, who I was sure was a perfect match for me sexually. A relatively recent ex (the man I dated before my now good friend). Our sex life was amazing. AMAZING. And because of that I dated him for about six months or so, even though he was a total asshole.
Yep, I emailed him and suggested that we get together for some NSA sex (I was so frustrated). And he came running. We got together for once a week or so for a couple of months. Until it became impossible to ignore his utter and complete dickishness.
And then, when that was over, I realized that I was going to have to get over my issues with the whole, “seeking NSA” thing because I was still sexually frustrated and still not interested in traditional dating. I just wanted a mutually beneficial arrangement.
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