Comments on: He Was Sick, I Felt Stuck http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/12/03/he-was-sick-i-felt-stuck-2/ Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 06:55:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Simone Grant http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/12/03/he-was-sick-i-felt-stuck-2/comment-page-1/#comment-5499 Simone Grant Fri, 04 Dec 2009 23:28:47 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/6509883#comment-5499 -Honey I'd imagine that our experiences aren't that uncommon. Sad and frustrating, but not that uncommon. -AoC Johnny Heavy? Yeah, I guess so. And no, he shouldn't have treated me like shit. But when people are sick/having their health deteriorate it's pretty common for them to be filled with anger AND to take that anger out on the people in their lives. I should have walked away sooner. -AF Thank you. And yes, the secret is out, I'm actually all soft and gushy inside :-) -Honey
I’d imagine that our experiences aren’t that uncommon. Sad and frustrating, but not that uncommon.
-AoC Johnny
Heavy? Yeah, I guess so. And no, he shouldn’t have treated me like shit. But when people are sick/having their health deteriorate it’s pretty common for them to be filled with anger AND to take that anger out on the people in their lives. I should have walked away sooner.
-AF
Thank you. And yes, the secret is out, I’m actually all soft and gushy inside :-)

]]> By: AF http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/12/03/he-was-sick-i-felt-stuck-2/comment-page-1/#comment-5498 AF Fri, 04 Dec 2009 12:04:02 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/6509883#comment-5498 I feel that you put on a very hard set of armour sometimes, but that, like most basically nice poeple, you have as soft centre somewhere and it shows on occasions like this. You're quite right, his anger was probably really at life, or even himself, but it got directed at you and, in the end, you did the right thing - you didn't, as you say, sign up to be his carer and why should you? I'm sure the research is right and it may well be that many women have that "mothering" instinct whether they want it or not and perhpas it just takes over. Personally, I wouldn't want that for myself, so I can well believe that I wouldn't want to do it for someone else. But then... you can never tell in advance what you'll do in certain situations, can you? Excellent thought provoking post! I feel that you put on a very hard set of armour sometimes, but that, like most basically nice poeple, you have as soft centre somewhere and it shows on occasions like this. You’re quite right, his anger was probably really at life, or even himself, but it got directed at you and, in the end, you did the right thing – you didn’t, as you say, sign up to be his carer and why should you?

I’m sure the research is right and it may well be that many women have that “mothering” instinct whether they want it or not and perhpas it just takes over. Personally, I wouldn’t want that for myself, so I can well believe that I wouldn’t want to do it for someone else. But then… you can never tell in advance what you’ll do in certain situations, can you?

Excellent thought provoking post!

]]> By: AoC Johnny http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/12/03/he-was-sick-i-felt-stuck-2/comment-page-1/#comment-5497 AoC Johnny Thu, 03 Dec 2009 23:57:50 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/6509883#comment-5497 Wow Simone, this was a heavy topic to write about. I have met some people who have been dealt a lame lot it is still no reason to treat people like shit! Wow Simone, this was a heavy topic to write about. I have met some people who have been dealt a lame lot it is still no reason to treat people like shit!

]]> By: Honey (and Lance) http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/12/03/he-was-sick-i-felt-stuck-2/comment-page-1/#comment-5496 Honey (and Lance) Thu, 03 Dec 2009 22:00:54 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/6509883#comment-5496 I briefly dated a guy who had an autoimmune disorder and as a result had gotten polio as a child from a partially live vaccine. We only dated 2 months but it was the same sort of thing - he was a selfish, judgmental person and I let him bully me around because I felt bad for him. I thought the fact that my mom was quadriplegic made me immune to that sort of thing, but it didn't. I briefly dated a guy who had an autoimmune disorder and as a result had gotten polio as a child from a partially live vaccine. We only dated 2 months but it was the same sort of thing – he was a selfish, judgmental person and I let him bully me around because I felt bad for him. I thought the fact that my mom was quadriplegic made me immune to that sort of thing, but it didn’t.

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