We all make compromises. Well, most of us do. Life isn’t perfect. Heck, sometimes it isn’t even fair. As adults we learn to make the best of what we have (I’m so not a fan of making lemonade out of lemons. I don’t see why I can’t appreciate a lemon for what it is.).
That said, there are some compromises that I’m not prepared to make, ever. Not prepared to, nor capable of, quite frankly.
For example, I could never continue in a long-term relationship with a man if the sex wasn’t good. I just couldn’t. And yes, I’ve actually tried. Great guy, could’ve fallen for him. But the sex wasn’t there.
And yet plenty of other women do it. Men too, I guess. Take this woman who wrote into the Sex & Love Forum in More Magazine:
“Truthfully, he has never been that great in bed, even before we were married 18 years ago, but I wanted to feel close to him. For me, the best part was afterwards, when we just lay in each other’s arms. I feel like sex was not something at the top of my list. We had 4 kids and now that I’m 42 (husband is 45) I want MORE! It bugs me when he all done and I’m still waiting for my turn that never comes….. What to do?”
She doesn’t sound miserable. Unsatisfied, sexually, sure. But not miserable. She loves her husband and the sex wasn’t that important to her. Now she wants more. I’m guessing she’s not that unusual. That there are plenty of women around her age (my age) who are in sexually unsatisfying relationships and who aren’t miserable.
But I couldn’t do it. It’s not a compromise I could live with.
What about you? Could you enter into a long-term relationship with someone who didn’t satisfy you sexually? Could you marry that person?
- I’m a guy, and yes I would. (8 votes)
- I’m a guy, and no I wouldn’t. (28 votes)
- I’m a woman, and yes I would. (14 votes)
- I’m a woman, and no I wouldn’t. (58 votes)
- Other. Please explain in the comments. (9 votes)
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