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Holiday Cheer

In case you’re new here, I’m not currently .  I’m not officially on a break from .  Not really.  I’ve just got a lot on my plate right now, emotionally and otherwise.  And until I get that all squared away I’m just staying out of the pool.  For a little while.

Anyway, this is actually the first holiday season, in a long while, that I’m going into without some guy in my life.  And I have to say, I’m kind of liking it.  Probably because I’ve always found the a particularly stressful time.  And negotiating the whole, Do I buy him a ?, How much should I spend?, Am I expected to invite him to dinner? thing just makes it all the more stressful and unpleasant.

My plans are pretty much set for this year and I’ve only had to worry about myself and my family.  Not some guy and what he wants from me.  And that’s pretty damn liberating, for a change.

As a funny aside to this, I just recently started to wear the totally useless but pretty gift given to me by last year’s guy.  An (obviously) ridiculously overpriced article of clothing that I meant to return, but it was from a boutique in his ‘hood and I couldn’t seem to get my ass there to return it in time.  It sat in the box for months until I finally hung it in my closet.  I’ve worn it exactly 2 times and wouldn’t be surprised if it makes it into my next donation bag to goodwill.


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  1. Singletude: A Positive Blog for Singles says:

    For many years, I was almost always alone at Christmas and on the first date of a new relationship at New Year’s. This happened so often that I started thinking of New Year’s as my “first date night.” This is the first year that I am intentionally not dating and have no plans to, and I’m curious to see how it unfolds. There’s something about watching happy couples at the holidays that can make you feel left out and lonely even when you’re perfectly happy on your own the rest of the year. I guess it’s because the holidays are imbued with such a strong cultural message about family, togetherness, and romance that it can make you feel lacking if those things aren’t part of your life. I used to have this tremendous sense of failure every time I went to my family’s for Christmas without a significant other. But now I just feel like if they have a problem with it, too bad. I don’t owe them an explanation, and they won’t be getting one. Luckily, I have a newly single friend to ring in 2010 with this year, and to be honest, hanging with her will probably be more fun than a jittery first date.

  2. PMFoutofwater says:

    I’m having a dating break too. Can’t be meeting girls while I’ve got these warts…