I was thinking of a post I wanted to write about love and being in love (I’ve been watching WAY too much tv this week, it’s turning my brain soft) so of course I turned to my favorite resource tool – the Urban Dictionary. Here are a few of the better definitions it gives for in love.
- someone you cant get enought of. you stay up all night thinking about him/her. when you are with him/her you want to stay in his/her arms forever.
- To care about someone so much that your happiness doesn’t matter anymore – just theirs. There’s nothing you won’t do for them, you just want them to be happy. They fill you with wonder, you are completely amazed by them. And when you are in love with someone, you’ll even let them be with someone else if they can be happier without you. Its a feeling that runs so deep it conquers everything. You’re not afraid of anything. All you want is them, and their happiness. They are your number one priority, over yourself and everything you know.
They are your world. And you can only wish to be theirs.
- When two people know each other for who they really are, and like each other anyway.
In love, it’s complicated.
Well, I think it is. Or, at least, it always has been for me. I’ve been in love exactly twice. In neither case did I use the words, btw. Ever. I’m not the mushy type. But the guys knew how I felt and I knew that they felt pretty much the same way about me. For the record, guy number one told me, over and over, that I was his soulmate. Guy number two didn’t use the love word until long after the loving was over.
In both cases I fell in love fast. Too fast. Not as first sight. But fast. And each time I found myself in love with a completely unlikely, totally inappropriate person with whom any hopes of a happily ever would be a logistical nightmare.
But I was in love. And love is about the heart and not the head. So both times I spent years battling within myself. Head versus heart. And as the war raged (for years, each time) I became, in many ways, the walking wounded.
I was thinking about this this week. For a bunch of reasons.
Tags: love, soulmate