So I’ve been watching a lot of television over the last few days. Well, a lot of television on hulu. It just takes a lot less focus to lie in bed with your laptop and watch some crap on hulu than it does to read. And so instead of using my sick time to read a couple of great books I’ve watched hours of bad television. Sad but true.
One of shows I watched was Grey’s Anatomy. Don’t ask why. Because it was there and I hadn’t seen it in a year or two-ish. I was curious. And bored.
Now, maybe I missed some big important plot points because I was half-asleep through most of what I saw, but it seemed to me that many of the young female interns and residents are romantically involved with older doctors. In other words, they’re sleeping with their teachers.
I’m not judging. These didn’t seem like quid pro quo relationships. That’s not my point. My point is that on a mainstream television show it’s pretty much accepted and OK (and not remarked upon, I don’t remember reading anything about this) to show teacher-student romantic relationships as acceptable – as long as the teacher is a man and the student is a woman. I’m thinking there’d be a few articles written and eyebrows raised if a show had a bunch of older female doctors sleeping with their much younger interns. If they tried to show that as a norm, instead of playing it for comedy.
Anyway, I think I was particularly sensitive to this issue because I have pretty strong opinions about teachers dating students, even when they’re both of age. I think it’s wrong. That’s right, there aren’t too many things I’m willing to come out and say, “I think this is wrong” but I think teacher-student relationships (in all situations) are wrong.
And I say this, btw, as a former teacher. Yeah, I used to teach. Adults. And no, I’m not going to say more about that now.
I don’t think it’s possible to take the power imbalance out of teacher-student relationships. Or boss-employee relationships, for that matter. Not completely. You can try. But I don’t think you can ever be 100% successful.
Which brings me to this week’s poll question: Do you think it’s ok for a teacher to date a student (if both of them are adults)?
- Yes. I see nothing wrong with it as long as they’re both consenting adults. (19 votes)
- No. (31 votes)
- Maybe. It depends on the circumstances and how much influence/power the teacher holds. (31 votes)
- Other. Please explain in the comments. (2 votes)