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Another Silly Little Story – A Missing Necklace

I don’t wear much jewelry.  I never really have.  I used to wear a bit, back in college, but then some of my early jobs here in the city took me into neighborhoods that weren’t exactly safe.  I thought it best to be leave the jewelry at home.

Then about 5 years ago I started to collect necklaces.  Well, not so much necklaces, but pendants.  I was on a business trip and window shopping to kill time and saw something really beautiful and decided to treat myself.  And then it just became this thing I do.  Every time I go on a trip I buy myself a pendant.

A few years ago I’d just started to date a new guy around the time of my .  I felt weird about mentioning my to him because I thought it was too soon to expect him to buy me a gift and that kind of thing can sometimes put stress on relationships (which is why I didn’t tell The European about my ).  So I didn’t mention it.  And then he asked about my plans for a specific night, I think it was a Saturday.  And I told him the truth, I was getting together with a group of friends for dinner, to celebrate my .  I didn’t want to lie or hide it from him.

So he ended up making me a home-cooked birthday dinner on another night (as I remember he bragged about being an amazing cook and he wasn’t).  And as soon as I walked in the door to his apartment he handed me a jewelry box.  In it was a beautiful necklace:  a gorgeous pendant on a lovely chain.  I LOVED IT and I was totally surprised because it was only our 4th or 5h date.

The relationship didn’t last long.  Only a few months.  He might have had great taste in jewelry but he was a cheating, .

After I ended things I asked a few friends what they thought I should do about the necklace.  It was unanimous, “lose the jerk, keep the jewelry”.  But sadly, I’ve lost the jewelry now too.  It’s been months since I’ve seen in.  I took some time today to look for it and I think it’s really gone.  I don’t know where I could’ve left it.  But I don’t expect to ever see it again.  Oh well.

I guess it’s a good thing..  Because as pretty as it was, I couldn’t wear it without remembering that story.  And him.  And how bad that relationship made me feel.


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4 to “Another Silly Little Story – A Missing Necklace”


  1. Jimmy Rice says:

    Hmm, think five dates is the cut off – after that, some sort of girft is required should the other datee have a birthday. Eek, I also brag about being a good cook when I’m not. Maybe that’s where I’m going wrong.

  2. WitlessFool says:

    In the end, think of it as a good thing. You’ll never part with it because it’s a pendant and you love pendants but everytime you wear/look at it, you’ll remember the jerk. So I guess, losing it was a good outcome overall. Guess what you should do? Buy yourself a new pendant as a treat!

  3. starangel82 says:

    I’m hardly one to judge when it comes to something like this. I still have a sweatshirt from an old boyfriend. It’s ratty and comfy… and I’m not going to part with it anytime soon… even though I probably should. Then again, we ended on decent terms, so I guess that makes a difference.

  4. Simone Grant says:

    -Jimmy Rice
    I’m a big fan of the saying, “underpromise, overdeliver”. Promising a girl that you’re a fabulous cook and then serving her a bland, boring meal is not going to earn you points. Telling her that you can barely cook at all but that you’re trying to learn and then serving her a bland, boring meal in which nothing was burned and it really tastes perfectly fine DOES earn you points.
    -WitlessFool
    What a wonderful idea. I should buy myself a new one. Maybe with a similar stone. And I agree, it was a good thing.
    -starangel82
    It has a lot to do with how things ended. I’m sure if things ended differently I might have better thoughts attached to the pendant.