Another Silly Little Story – A Missing Necklace
I don’t wear much jewelry. I never really have. I used to wear a bit, back in college, but then some of my early jobs here in the city took me into neighborhoods that weren’t exactly safe. I thought it best to be leave the jewelry at home.
Then about 5 years ago I started to collect necklaces. Well, not so much necklaces, but pendants. I was on a business trip and window shopping to kill time and saw something really beautiful and decided to treat myself. And then it just became this thing I do. Every time I go on a trip I buy myself a pendant.
A few years ago I’d just started to date a new guy around the time of my birthday. I felt weird about mentioning my birthday to him because I thought it was too soon to expect him to buy me a gift and that kind of thing can sometimes put stress on relationships (which is why I didn’t tell The European about my birthday). So I didn’t mention it. And then he asked about my plans for a specific night, I think it was a Saturday. And I told him the truth, I was getting together with a group of friends for dinner, to celebrate my birthday. I didn’t want to lie or hide it from him.
So he ended up making me a home-cooked birthday dinner on another night (as I remember he bragged about being an amazing cook and he wasn’t). And as soon as I walked in the door to his apartment he handed me a jewelry box. In it was a beautiful necklace: a gorgeous pendant on a lovely chain. I LOVED IT and I was totally surprised because it was only our 4th or 5h date.
The relationship didn’t last long. Only a few months. He might have had great taste in jewelry but he was a cheating, lying asshat.
After I ended things I asked a few friends what they thought I should do about the necklace. It was unanimous, “lose the jerk, keep the jewelry”. But sadly, I’ve lost the jewelry now too. It’s been months since I’ve seen in. I took some time today to look for it and I think it’s really gone. I don’t know where I could’ve left it. But I don’t expect to ever see it again. Oh well.
I guess it’s a good thing.. Because as pretty as it was, I couldn’t wear it without remembering that story. And him. And how bad that relationship made me feel.
Tags: asshat, Birthday, lying
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Hmm, think five dates is the cut off – after that, some sort of girft is required should the other datee have a birthday. Eek, I also brag about being a good cook when I’m not. Maybe that’s where I’m going wrong.
In the end, think of it as a good thing. You’ll never part with it because it’s a pendant and you love pendants but everytime you wear/look at it, you’ll remember the jerk. So I guess, losing it was a good outcome overall. Guess what you should do? Buy yourself a new pendant as a treat!
I’m hardly one to judge when it comes to something like this. I still have a sweatshirt from an old boyfriend. It’s ratty and comfy… and I’m not going to part with it anytime soon… even though I probably should. Then again, we ended on decent terms, so I guess that makes a difference.
-Jimmy Rice
I’m a big fan of the saying, “underpromise, overdeliver”. Promising a girl that you’re a fabulous cook and then serving her a bland, boring meal is not going to earn you points. Telling her that you can barely cook at all but that you’re trying to learn and then serving her a bland, boring meal in which nothing was burned and it really tastes perfectly fine DOES earn you points.
-WitlessFool
What a wonderful idea. I should buy myself a new one. Maybe with a similar stone. And I agree, it was a good thing.
-starangel82
It has a lot to do with how things ended. I’m sure if things ended differently I might have better thoughts attached to the pendant.