Comments on: Don’t Be Cruel http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/09/25/dont-be-cruel-2/ Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 06:55:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: LittleMissAngry http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/09/25/dont-be-cruel-2/comment-page-1/#comment-4729 LittleMissAngry Mon, 28 Sep 2009 03:50:04 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/5231888#comment-4729 I agree that 1, 3 and 4 = cruel. No. 2, not so much cruel, just dreadfully annoying! ;) I agree that 1, 3 and 4 = cruel. No. 2, not so much cruel, just dreadfully annoying! ;)

]]> By: Simone Grant http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/09/25/dont-be-cruel-2/comment-page-1/#comment-4728 Simone Grant Mon, 28 Sep 2009 00:48:05 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/5231888#comment-4728 -The Champ, Welcome to the blog. Thanks for taking the time to drop by. Hmmm, men treat each other worse than they treat women? Interesting. -Dating is my Hobby Yeah, the fade sucks. It's just not the way adults should interact. -Singletude Perhaps this is one of those areas when one partners thinks they're giving off signals and the other doesn't read them? Who knows. Either way, it's ridiculous. Signals are not enough. -Anon #1 Telling a woman she's crazy as an alternative to, "I think you're letting your insecurities get the better of you" is hardly effective. "Crazy" is just condescending. Everyone has insecurities. Adults should be able to discuss them without putting one another down. -drumdance I was actually referring to more than the act of looking, but rather the way men treat the women they casually interact with. -Anon#2 I don't pretend to be a relationship expert (and think most of the people who do are full of shit). And I don't really believe in good or bad. If the person you like makes you feel bad more than good, then I'd rethink it. Otherwise, be happy. -The Champ,
Welcome to the blog. Thanks for taking the time to drop by. Hmmm, men treat each other worse than they treat women? Interesting.
-Dating is my Hobby
Yeah, the fade sucks. It’s just not the way adults should interact.
-Singletude
Perhaps this is one of those areas when one partners thinks they’re giving off signals and the other doesn’t read them? Who knows. Either way, it’s ridiculous. Signals are not enough.
-Anon #1
Telling a woman she’s crazy as an alternative to, “I think you’re letting your insecurities get the better of you” is hardly effective. “Crazy” is just condescending. Everyone has insecurities. Adults should be able to discuss them without putting one another down.
-drumdance
I was actually referring to more than the act of looking, but rather the way men treat the women they casually interact with.
-Anon#2
I don’t pretend to be a relationship expert (and think most of the people who do are full of shit). And I don’t really believe in good or bad. If the person you like makes you feel bad more than good, then I’d rethink it. Otherwise, be happy.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/09/25/dont-be-cruel-2/comment-page-1/#comment-4727 Anonymous Sun, 27 Sep 2009 21:54:23 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/5231888#comment-4727 I can completely relate to #1 on your list. I've recently subscribed to your blog and I enjoy it on a daily basis. I must say, wow you're making me feel "normal" and far from alone. Thank you! I'm a girl that dates girls and I've recently taken to dating a girl that has a lot of "guy" qualities, excluding her looks. She's beautiful and the envy of most, but omg, she's such a guy! and I really do tear myself apart when she ignores me. I find myself "addicted to the chase" and I stay alert for the moment she actually acknowledges my existence. I find that she's worth the wait, is this bad? I can completely relate to #1 on your list. I’ve recently subscribed to your blog and I enjoy it on a daily basis. I must say, wow you’re making me feel “normal” and far from alone. Thank you!
I’m a girl that dates girls and I’ve recently taken to dating a girl that has a lot of “guy” qualities, excluding her looks. She’s beautiful and the envy of most, but omg, she’s such a guy! and I really do tear myself apart when she ignores me. I find myself “addicted to the chase” and I stay alert for the moment she actually acknowledges my existence. I find that she’s worth the wait, is this bad?

]]> By: drumdance http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/09/25/dont-be-cruel-2/comment-page-1/#comment-4726 drumdance Sun, 27 Sep 2009 16:33:00 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/5231888#comment-4726 The thing women need to understand about men looking at them as sexbots is, we look at <em>ourselves</a> as sexbots. <a href="http://www.kottke.org/07/03/men-look-at-crotches" rel="nofollow">Eyetracking studies confirm this.</a> Who do you think buys all those muscle magazines at the supermarket checkout? It's in our nature to notice the sexual attractiveness of not only our "targets," but also our rivals. The thing women need to understand about men looking at them as sexbots is, we look at ourselves as sexbots. Eyetracking studies confirm this. Who do you think buys all those muscle magazines at the supermarket checkout? It’s in our nature to notice the sexual attractiveness of not only our “targets,” but also our rivals.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/09/25/dont-be-cruel-2/comment-page-1/#comment-4725 Anonymous Sat, 26 Sep 2009 22:15:38 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/5231888#comment-4725 "It is also not crazy to be concerned about tthe status of a relationship when a man's behavior has been erratic. Or if he didn't call when he said he was going to. None of that is "crazy". " I think you're reaching on this one. You get labeled a psycho when you can't control your own insecurity and take it out on the guy. Men aren't these fragile creatures who can't take it when a woman expresses frustration. Guys know when they've messed up. If a woman expresses a valid point they take ownership of their mistake. Women only get called crazy when they can't see past their own neediness and proceed to act irrationally. “It is also not crazy to be concerned about tthe status of a relationship when a man’s behavior has been erratic. Or if he didn’t call when he said he was going to. None of that is “crazy”. ”

I think you’re reaching on this one. You get labeled a psycho when you can’t control your own insecurity and take it out on the guy. Men aren’t these fragile creatures who can’t take it when a woman expresses frustration. Guys know when they’ve messed up. If a woman expresses a valid point they take ownership of their mistake. Women only get called crazy when they can’t see past their own neediness and proceed to act irrationally.

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