Cruel: disposed to inflict pain or suffering; devoid of humane feelings
The cruelest thing a man can do to a woman is to portray her as perfection. D. H. Lawrence
The other day, the guys at VSB did a post on the 4 cruelest things that women do to men. As usual, for them, it made me laugh. And, as usual, I could see that there was some truth behind the buffoonery. The stuff they listed would seriously piss me off if I were a guy.
Anyway, in honor of them, I decided to write my own list. The 4 cruelest things that men do to women. And since I didn’t want this to just be about me and my issues, I reached out to my twitter friends for support. This is what we came up with. BTW, lest I get accused of being a man-hating bitch, I’ve already written about how much I like men, here and here.
The 4 Cruelest Things That Men Do to Women
1. They ignore us. There is a not a grown woman alive who hasn’t wanted to beat a guy’s brains in because, for some unknown reason, he just stops talking to her. He doesn’t disappear completely. And when asked he’ll say, “everything’s fine”. But he just stops looking at, talking to, engaging with his woman(wife, girlfriend, whatever). And we women, taught by popular culture that we are supposed to be patient and giving and wait out these “difficult times” are left to tear ourselves apart. Wondering with each passing day if there was something we did, something we can do, something he did that he’s afraid to tell us.
2. They treat every woman in the universe like a potential ‘target’. Sex is good. Women like sex, too. But treating all the women in the world like brainless sexbots isn’t going to get a guy anywhere. Co-workers, the women at the grocery store, neighbors – they all would like it to stop. Immediately. Here’s a little trick for you guys to try, imagine that every woman you see has a dick, maybe then you’ll start to treat us all with a bit more respect.
3. They take our normal concerns and behaviors and label them “crazy” and/or assume that “we have our period“. It is not crazy for a woman who is not a size 4 or below to think she looks fat. It might be unhealthy, but it isn’t crazy. Our society is constantly telling women that beauty=skinny (luckily most of us realize this is a load of shit, eventually). It is also not crazy to be concerned about tthe status of a relationship when a man’s behavior has been erratic. Or if he didn’t call when he said he was going to. None of that is “crazy”. And labelling it crazy isn’t helpful. All it does is help the guy avoid having a conversation on the topic because you don’t have to talk about something if it’s “crazy”.
4. The late-in-the-game fade. My regular readers have heard me rant on about the fade. The fade is when 2 people have gone out a few times, and then one party decides s/he is not interested and instead of replying to an email or phone message with “I enjoyed meeting you, but I don’t think we’re a good match” or some other polite way of saying I’m not into you, s/he just disappears. S/he stops returning calls, texts, emails. I hate that. It’s childish whoever does it. The late-in-the-game fade is 50 times worse. This is when two people have a relationship. They’ve been sleeping together, getting to know one another, meeting each other’s friends and then the guy (I do not know of any cases where a woman has done this, and if one has she should have to turn in her chick card – the horrid cow) fades. He withdraws completely from the relationship without manning up and saying anything about it and then when asked by a frantic woman, “what’s going on, I haven’t seen or heard from you in days/weeks and you’re not returning my calls/texts/emails” he says something lame like, “I’m sorry, I don’t want to be with you anymore and I didn’t know how to tell you. I’ve moved on and am already seeing someone new.”
Tags: the fade, VSB