This is SO not about what you think it is.
I was browsing YourTango as I drank my coffee and noticed this post, Is One Month Into Dating Too Soon to Get Hitched. They showed both sides and gave a famous example (go read the post) of a couple who met and married soon after and have made it work for decades. And they gave a list of pros and cons (I’m not so much a fan of the pro and con lists).
Anyway, I can think of a couple of other examples of people who’ve met and married quickly: my parents and Lostplum’s parents. Both long marriages. Not to mention the fact that the success rate for arranged marriages is much higher than that for “normal” marriages.
And yet the comments on that YourTango article, so far, are very much in the “take your time” camp. The general consensus in this country is that people should know each other for years before they marry. Years and years. And I’m not saying that’s wrong. I mean, what do I know, anyway? I’m just saying that maybe there’s something to meeting someone, falling hard, having a frank discussion or two about what you both want out of life (which to me seems to be the key to success, but again, what do I know) and then going for it.
Not that I’m in a rush to get married. Ever.
Tags: marriage, parents, single, YourTango