I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, there are few things I really believe in and hold to be true. I don’t believe in god, organized religion, monogamy (although I have plenty of respect for people who do believe in those things and would hope that you all – the majority – could find it in your hearts to respect me, as well).
There are a few things I do believe in. One is that questions are more important than answers. The other is that I will always and forever love New York City. Some of my earliest and best memories are of spending time in Manhattan with my family and of dreaming of what my life would be like when I grew up and got to live here (a bit of New York City flavor for non-NYers, if you are from a part of the city other than Manhattan, you are not from “the city” and every trip into Manhattan is going into “the city”).
However, recently I heard something that has me rethinking my love for NYC. Did you know that 26% of New Yorkers are infected with herpes? That’s significantly higher than the national average of 19%.
I don’t know how I didn’t know this. The data was published in the NYTimes over a year ago, which means the numbers are probably even higher now (you know how these things spread). And there is no cure for herpes. So the chances of a SINgleGIRL like myself having an intimate relationship with a guy who has herpes is pretty high. And people wonder why I’m fanatical about condom usage?
So anyway, I was joking before about rethinking my love for NYC. Love isn’t brains and New York is in my blood. I can rethink it all I want, but I’m not going anywhere. Truth is, I don’t think I’d run from a guy who had herpes. Not if I really, really liked him. Which I think puts me in that minority, again. I say this because I’ve read “drug and disease free” on a lot of people’s lists of dealbreakers. So I’m guessing they’re including herpes.
Which leads us to this week’s question: Would you have a relationship/sexual relationship with someone who had herpes, or is that a dealbreaker for you?
- No. I just couldn’t do it. (41 votes)
- Yes. It’s not life-threatening. What’s the big deal? (14 votes)
- Maybe. It depends on how long we knew each other/how much I trusted and loved the person. (56 votes)
- Other. Please explain in the comments. (7 votes)
Tags: love, nyc, nytimes