Comments on: Dateable Redux http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/09/22/dateable-redux-2/ Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 06:55:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Dating Match http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/09/22/dateable-redux-2/comment-page-1/#comment-5876 Dating Match Sat, 23 Jan 2010 00:34:07 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/5181060#comment-5876 I don’t normally comment on blogs but your post was a real call to action. Thank you for a great read. I don’t normally comment on blogs but your post was a real call to action. Thank you for a great read.

]]> By: adnoxious http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/09/22/dateable-redux-2/comment-page-1/#comment-4684 adnoxious Mon, 28 Sep 2009 21:27:33 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/5181060#comment-4684 I found the Onion personals to be the best online dating service. Sometimes you actually meet someone with a personality. Also, if you find the recent match.com ads painfully annoying check out: http://adnoxious.blogspot.com/2009/09/matchcom-its-okay-to-be-nugget-of.html I found the Onion personals to be the best online dating service. Sometimes you actually meet someone with a personality. Also, if you find the recent match.com ads painfully annoying check out: http://adnoxious.blogspot.com/2009/09/matchcom-its-okay-to-be-nugget-of.html

]]> By: Simone Grant http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/09/22/dateable-redux-2/comment-page-1/#comment-4683 Simone Grant Sat, 26 Sep 2009 15:42:30 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/5181060#comment-4683 -Singletude You're not an oddball. The oddballs are the ones (In my opinion) with no standards at all. Who think just about anyone could make a suitable partner. Online dating makes the realities of dating more obvious, not everyone is going to like you, there are lots of duds out there, and finding someone to love isn't easy. Some people don't want to deal with that truth :-) -Singletude
You’re not an oddball. The oddballs are the ones (In my opinion) with no standards at all. Who think just about anyone could make a suitable partner. Online dating makes the realities of dating more obvious, not everyone is going to like you, there are lots of duds out there, and finding someone to love isn’t easy. Some people don’t want to deal with that truth :-)

]]> By: Singletude: A Positive Blog for Singles http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/09/22/dateable-redux-2/comment-page-1/#comment-4682 Singletude: A Positive Blog for Singles Wed, 23 Sep 2009 20:28:12 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/5181060#comment-4682 Thanks! This just made me feel way better about the fact that I'm only physically attracted to about 20% of the men I meet and only mentally/emotionally attracted to a quarter of those, leaving me with a 5% dateable pool. Here I thought I was just an oddball this whole time! :) I think you're on to an overlooked truth about online dating--it's not that different than the real world. The rejections are just more obvious. I think of it this way: If you went out to a bar, and one or two guys out of a hundred or so there hit on you, you'd think that was a successful night. Same applies if you're a guy and got one or two numbers. But when you write to a hundred people online and only a few write back, the rejection is more obvious, so you feel like a failure. It's all in how you look at it. Thanks! This just made me feel way better about the fact that I’m only physically attracted to about 20% of the men I meet and only mentally/emotionally attracted to a quarter of those, leaving me with a 5% dateable pool. Here I thought I was just an oddball this whole time! :)

I think you’re on to an overlooked truth about online dating–it’s not that different than the real world. The rejections are just more obvious. I think of it this way: If you went out to a bar, and one or two guys out of a hundred or so there hit on you, you’d think that was a successful night. Same applies if you’re a guy and got one or two numbers. But when you write to a hundred people online and only a few write back, the rejection is more obvious, so you feel like a failure. It’s all in how you look at it.

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