You all know how much I like hearing from you. I love getting your messages (it’s easy to reach me via the OnSugar system, Twitter DM, facebook). Not so much the angry/nonsensical tirades in the comments section, but they’re easy enough to delete.
Well, a couple days ago I got a message that kind of stopped me in my tracks. Here is the message, verbatim, “I have never been faithful in my entire life. And when I got married I thought I would change but I’m still cheating”.
I didn’t recognize the username and didn’t know, at first, if it was a man or woman who’d sent the message. I have to admit that my first assumption was that it was a guy. I was wrong. The person who’d sent it has a complete OnSugar profile page and she is a woman. I should’ve known better than to assume.
I thought about the message for a while, and the person who’d sent it. Usually when people who send me messages (if it’s someone I haven’t heard from before) they are either writing to share a personal story, seek advice, or lend me their support when they think I might need it (I always need it).
This seemed different. And intriguing. I wrote her back and asked her if I could share her message on the blog and she said yes. Which leads me to this weeks poll question.
Do you think it’s possible for a person to just start being faithful, assuming this person wanted to be in a traditional monogamous relationship (which is a choice, there are options to this – yay options) even if s/he had never successfully stayed faithful to his/her partner in the past?
Can a cheating leopard change his/her spots?
- Yes. This is ridiculous. If a person wants to be faithful then they should just NOT CHEAT. (21 votes)
- No. If a person had a lifelong habit of infidelity I think it’s unlikely that they’d be able to unlearn that behavior. (36 votes)
- It depends on how hard they try. A person can accomplish anything with the right effort and support (and maybe therapy). (77 votes)
- Other. Please explain in the comments. (2 votes)
Tags: change, cheat, monogamy, polls