This week we have a post from an anonymous contributor. On that note, if any of my male readers out there would like to send me a story for the Sunday feature, I’d be thrilled. You can stay anonymous, or I can credit you for the post with a link to your blog. I can be reached via OnSugar messaging, Twitter or Facebook. Today is Sunday and that means it’s time for another Guy’s Story. Every Sunday I have posts from male guest authors.
“The more sparks you have, the greater the probability of causing a fire. So I tend to go after multiple girls in parallel when I am online dating. There will be some who say I’m playing the field, and that I don’t really know what I’m looking for. Confession – they’re right (mostly). I don’t know what type of girl I’m looking for. I’ve tried the type thing, and I did get one fire. And then a lot of ash. So I’ve given up on types.
Last Thursday I went out with Biotech Girl on a first date. My pre-date impression of her was that she was a little too do-right for my taste. Which turned out not to be true, and in fact the reverse was true. We met up at an organic cafe that I suggested, one that had the type of soy sauce that tells you it contains no meat. So I was left looking like a square. Although after an hour and change talking, we parted ways. She gave me an affectionate hug and told me that she wanted to meet up next week for a drink.
Tonight I went out with Vet Girl on a first date. My pre-date impression of her was that she was probably more of an extrovert than me. I’m an introvert, but I’m not shy. She had emailed me last week with her phone number, but I had to go out of town for business on short notice, and didn’t call her until today. In case you are wondering, not calling her sooner was most likely a mistake on my part. But I was concered about trying to set up a date while I was on the road, and needed the weekend for myself to catch up with my personal life. She said that she had to go to SF tonight to pickup something for her business, and we planned to meet at a fusion place in the Haight.
Vet Girl was a knockout. She had a top on that was split to the sternum, and I had to consciously not look down. I’ve learned that when faced with a situation like this, it’s best to risk failing a test by not looking rather than failing a test by getting caught even glancing. She was blonde, beautiful, and an amazing person. I coughed more than I wanted to; in addition to the oxytocin I was feeling, I had ran for an hour shortly before the date. I offered to pay, but she put forth a $20 and said we should split the bill. I put a credit card in and took the $20; a questionable move, but leaving the $20 there and you risk looking like you are not being polite to the waiter. I hate these decisions.
Vet Girl and I parted ways, and she shook my hand and said it was nice to meet me. My gut said don’t try to schedule a second date here, give it a day and then email her back since that seemed to be where you made a connection. I was a bummed – I was really into this girl, but didn’t think she had an equal interest level in me. So when I got home, I gave Biotech Girl a call and left a voicemail asking her out for a drink later this week. There’s a good chance I won’t see either again; I’ve probably failed tests with both. But dating is complicated and sometimes the only way to start a fire is to make a lot of sparks.”
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