Like so many other people in the US, I’m “away” this weekend. So no dates for me (and no, I don’t have anything scheduled with Mr. Nicepost for next week and yes, this makes me a little anxious).
I’m still an active online dater. Here’s a story of three men, all of whom have written to me recently.
Bachelor #1, on the surface, seems like a good potential match for me. Right age, not bad looking, wrote a somewhat interesting (OK – not great, but not awful) profile. Bachelor #2, has a great profile. It’s well written and funny and full of details that make me want to meet him. But he’s a few years too young for me and he reveals 3 or 4 other things about himself that I consider to be red flags. Bachelor #3 is much, much too young (by a decade), is cute, and has a great (red-flag free) profile.
Bet you can’t guess which one of these guys I’m probably going to meet? That’s right, Bachelor #3.
Why him? Because he wrote me a wonderful little note mentioning some very specific reasons why he thinks we should meet. He acknowledges the age issue (that he is below my stated age range) and that he thinks we should overlook it. In other words, he took a shot. A really great shot.
Bachelor #1, the most obvious choice, sent me a one line note telling me that he thought my pictures were pretty. Bzzzz, wrong answer. Not enough effort on display. Move along.
Bachelor #2 didn’t do much better, sending me a not that said, “Hi there, How are you?” Sorry, no.
As important as a guy’s profile is (and it’s very, very important) the initial message he sends me is just as, if not more, important.
Anyway, I’m guessing that some guys still don’t get that. That they’re messaging several dozen chicks at a time with the same opening line. Maybe even copying and pasting it. And who knows, maybe it will work. On someone.
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