Last night I had a nondate.
A couple of weeks ago I was supposed to meet this guy for drinks, and he emailed early in the day saying he was still interested in meeting me but had had a couple of promising dates with a new girl and so was thinking that our “date” would just be as potential friends. I was impressed with his honesty and told him I’d still be interested in meeting, too, but that since I had a lot on my plate that day I wanted to reschedule.
To last night.
I’m so happy that a) it was a nondate and b) we rescheduled.
I should mention that he is a younger man. I’ve been trying to be open to the idea of dating younger guys. It’s not easy for me. I don’t, actually, find them attractive in most cases. But I’m trying.
Well, he came off as very mature via email, blah blah blah. In person he’s kind of a pipsqueak. Which is not to say he’s not a nice guy. But I felt like I was hanging out with a kid (he’s 11 years younger that Mr. Nicepost, for comparison). From the second we met the whole thing felt awkward and icky. Even as “just friends”.
Anyway, we spent a lot of time talking about his new relationship. They’ve had 4 dates. He’d like this to be “the one” but he doesn’t want to say anything to make it look like he’s being too pushy or needy. That was kind of sweet. To see a guy who genuinely wants to be in a committed relationship. I don’t see much of that.
Tags: Online dating, shy, younger men