I was supposed to have a date with Mr. Nicepost tonight. Was. I got an email from him early this afternoon saying that he was sick. The flu. He suggested we get together Friday. But I have family stuff this weekend and so…
People get sick all of the time. It happens.
And yet my first instinct was to assume that this was the first step in his inevitable fade (for new readers of the blog, the fade is when a person, usually a man, doesn’t want to come out and say, “I don’t want to see you anymore” or something like it and so instead discontinues all communication). I figured the next step would be for him to say, I’ll be in touch just as soon as I feel better, and then I’d never hear from him.
Was this rational? I don’t know. OK, probably not. But there are very good reasons why I have trust issues. And I’d just written a post that I was mildly concerned might upset him (although I really didn’t think it would).
There are just so many reasons that a person could decide, between a second date and a third date to cancel. So many. I guess.
Anyway, I replied to his email with a “get well” that included a mention of my blog and that I hoped I hadn’t written anything to upset him in any way. And he replied, shortly after, that he’s not reading my blog, not after that first time. That he would rather not. That it’s mine (a place for me to express myself and he doesn’t want to invade my space) and he’s sure that if there’s something he needs to know I’d tell him directly. And that he was really looking forward to seeing me again when he was feeling better. All of which added up to me feeling much better.
If not exactly, good (because, you know, it wouldn’t be the first time a guy lied to me). Yeah, I got issues. I’m working on ‘em.
Tags: cancelled, dating, liar, Sick, the fade, trust