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Still a Haze

I’m just gonna be honest with you and admit that I’m still in a bit of a haze.  I was out late last night and one of the many things that suck about getting older is that I can’t go out and have lots of fun and lots to drink and then wake up early the next morning feeling fresh as a daisy.

Nope.  Not feeling fresh as a daisy right now.  Which is a shame because it looks like a nice day out there.  And all I want to do is go back to bed.

Anyway, let me tell you about some of the fun I had last night.  I started my night at a GiveAndDate that was thrown in collaboration with the guys from Cupid’s Lab.   You should check out both of their websites – 2 very different concepts:  both new, both creative, both fabulous.  And I love the fact that they’ve been working together.

The party was kind of interesting in that it was the first singles type party I’ve ever been to in NYC that had significantly more guys than women.  That’s right girls.  If you were sitting home last night wondering where all of the men in NYC were, I can tell you that a large number of them were at Union Bar hoping to meet women.

Which is kinda funny as most singles parties I go to have way more women than men.  I guess that’s just the universe screwing with us all.

My night didn’t end there.  Now before you jump to conclusions, NO I didn’t pick up one of the many cute young boys from the party.  Instead, Mr. Nicepost met me at the party and we went out from there.

Aw, isn’t that sweet?  He’d asked me out for last night and when I told him I’d planned to go to the party he said he’d meet me there.

Anyway, we left the party pretty early and then went first to dinner and then to an amazing club to listen to music.  I’m not going to give you the name of the club we went to because it’s someplace I really liked and plan on returning to again and again.

I’m still not sure how much I want to say about the date.  I was thinking that if I just followed my “blog policy” that everything would be OK.  But people keep warning me that either A) dating and writing about someone who knows about the blog will be impossible and therefore we have no chance of having any kind of relationship or B) completely withholding the info about my dates will destroy the blog.

Here’s the deal, everyone – we’ve had 2 dates.  Two. Let’s not go counting any chickens before they’re hatched.  I just want to go about my life and date as if everything were normal.  If that’s possible?  Which it may not be.  Oh fuck.


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  1. My Kafkaesque Life says:

    Well, telling your date about the blog can be tricky. I’m more someone who’d keep mit a secret. Then again, isn’t it liberating to share? :)

  2. Anonymous says:

    Are you really able to be completely open on your blog (as you intend to be) if you’re writing about guys who know about the blog? Seems like it would hard to be honest, to play coy, etc.. especially when the dude can read all about your explicit sexual past.

  3. Tina T says:

    I can’t imagine how difficult it is to decide what to share. It’s critical to your blog to hear what’s going on in your dating life, yet I can sympathize with the guys who wouldn’t want you writing about your relationship with them. Anyway, it’s great that you had a good time even if it left you a bit hazy.

  4. pansophy says:

    Please follow your “blog policy”. The whole triumph of telling him about the blog in the first place will be completely defeated if fear takes over.

    To be successful in any business you have to turn potential disadvantages into a advantages. You have an entire venue to communicate with him that isn’t available to most people, so be creative with it rather than fearful and use it to add something to your relationship with him.

  5. Simone Grant says:

    -My Kafkaesque Life
    Yes, it is liberating. That’s it exactly. Now it’s just about working out the details.
    -Anonymous
    I would never want to date a man who would be threatened by anything I’ve ever written here (first of all, this blog is pretty tame). I guess that’s part of finding the “right guy” for me.
    -Tina T
    Thanks. It was great to have a good time, even if I feel like hell today. This is a weird situation because I honestly don’t think he cares what I write. I’m the one with the issue.
    -pansophy
    It’s funny, I just gave a friend a mini-lecture about how important it was in life to do the things we fear the most. Haha.

  6. Anonymous says:

    I also blog on dating and relationships. I found that If I am interested enough I do tell them I blog. I don’t gloat or over do it unless I can really care less whether I see them again.
    I found most are interested and find out alot of things about me ahead of time. Usually that I won’t tolerate stupidness. This eliminates alot!