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There Are Some Things I Just Won’t Do

So, I was just catching up on my casual reading and, lo and behold, there’s another celebrity sex tape scandal.  Shocking.  No, I’m not going to put a link to that.  There are actually some things I think that are beneath me.

Anyway, I just thought I’d add my two cents.  On the short list of things I’ll never do (again) is let a man take nekkid pics and/or make a nekkid/sex videos of me.  I’m not talking about tasteful (like the photo in my header, which is almost-).  I’m talking trashy, we’re having sex and out come the cameras-nekkid.

I dated a guy who did that once.  And I was so shocked when I saw the camera that I did a deer in the headlights thing.  I didn’t react at all.  And then the next day I called him and begged him to erase it from his memory.

And then I checked the camera the next time I was over.

Anyway, it’s just never going to happen (again).

When guys mention it as something that turns them on, I get it. I do.
But there’s just no way in hell I can be comfortable knowing that somewhere out there is sexy/naughty pictures or videos of me.  Sorry.

As to the other things I just won’t do.  Well…


5 to “There Are Some Things I Just Won’t Do”

  1. Momma Sunshine says:

    Tasteful nekkid I’ll do. Nasty nekki? No way. Not even if he asked nicely. heh.

  2. Tales From A Bar Stool says:

    Yeah… There’s no way I would do naked photos / video. I must admit though, I have sent half naked photos of my body, sans head to a couple of beaus. They seemed to like them enough without the head. 😉

  3. Veka says:

    I have sent top-half photos of myself to one person. Sometimes I regret it but other times I don’t. It was fun at the moment in time and I just thought, why not? But I haven’t yet let a man take pics of me with his own camera. I like to be in control of what I send. As far as what he does with them… I just keep my fingers crossed.

  4. One Sassy Girl says:

    Can’t agree more!! We all need boundaries and mine lie with documentation of my dirty deeds 😉

    Great post and I really like this site!

  5. Simone Grant says:

    -One Sassy Girl
    First, welcome to the blog (and thank you). You’re point is an excellent one. We all need boundaries and more importantly for me, need to know them upfront. I think a lot of people (women, mostly) end up doing things they regret because they either didn’t know or weren’t comfortable communicating their boundaries,
    Interesting that you took the pictures yourself but wouldn’t let a man take them with his camera. I think I’d probably feel the same way.
    -Tales from a Bar Stool
    It sounds like you are on board with me an Veka.
    -Momma Sunshine
    LOL. It’s so funny how different those two things are. Tasteful seems so harmless and the other just outright repulsive.