Ok guys, don’t say I never did anything for you.
If you follow the instructions I’m going to give you today, you will be guarenteed better dates in the future. Probably. Unless you don’t need this advice. In which case, attaboy.
Are you a man who is actively dating, or single and thinking that he’d like to get back into the dating pool? Or single and sexually frustrated and thinking that he should get back into the dating pool, but doesn’t have a clue as to where to start? If any of those descriptions might be appropriate for you (even a little) then you need to get your shit together and plan the perfect date. A few perfect dates.
Even if you haven’t met a woman you’d like to take out yet.
You see, most women (that’s right – I just made a HUGE generalization) prefer it when guys have their shit together. When they actually plan a date from start to finish. When they say something like, “let’s get together on ___day for _____ at ____ o’clock” (for example, let’s get together on Thursday afternoon for coffee. How’s 4pm?”). It’s a turn-on. So when I had that near perfect Sunday brunch date about a month ago, the thing that made it so great was his planning, more than him.
Now, long time readers will know that I’m a big fan of short first dates. Or rather, first dates that have no obligation of lasting more than 30 minutes. See this old post on first date ideas for more details.
None of those ideas take a lot of planning. Just a little thought. And what I’m suggesting is that you go ahead and think of it now. Right now. Sit down and plan a perfect date. A few perfect dates. From start to finish. Where you’d like to go. When (what time of day/day of week). How you might ask. No, I’m not joking. I’m suggesting that you think of the words you might use. In much the same way that some people think through job interviews in their heads.
FYI, there is a reason I’m writing about this today. I have a date later this week with a guy who seems like a great guy in a lot of ways. Except that it’s one of those, ‘play it by ear’ dates. We’re meeting outside a landmark and then ‘we’ll see what we feel like doing’. I hate those kinds of dates. Really hate them. Sometimes they work out fine. But usually not. Usually they’re annoying and I end up thinking the guy is a flake. And so I’m going into it thinking not so good things about him because of the date that he pretty much hasn’t planned.
Guys, do yourself a favor and plan ahead.
Tags: Best Date Spots, dating, first date