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It Was a Very Good Year (?)

So this weekend is the one year anniversary of this .  Not at this site.  I started over at blogspot and migrated over here – to OnSugar with my own url a few months later.  But I started the site exactly one year ago this weekend.

Technically tomorrow.  But tomorrow is Sunday and Sunday is the Guy’s Story day.

Anyway, I’m pretty proud of myself on a lot of levels.  I had no idea, when I started this blog, what I was getting into. NONE.  Truth is, I still don’t really know what I’m doing.  But I enjoy it and there are people who like to read my blog so it’s all good.

In case you’re interested - here is my very first post.

And now some random thoughts on being single and the blog. First for the blog (SO much easier). I can’t believe how much richer this blog has made my life.  I’ve met some of the most amazing people, both online and IRL.  And for that I will always be grateful.  The fact that the blog’s (relative) success* has actually started to lead me into my career of choice (writing) is the cherry of top.

As for being single, it’s been a weird year on that front.  I’ve gone on a lot of dates.  I thought of clicking through all of my posts and trying to count them, but that seemed a bit too masochistic, even for me. There were a handful of guys who made it to date 3 or 4.   And one I saw for a couple of months.  But no boyfriend emerged from the crowd.  I don’t, in any way, feel like a failure.  I feel like a person who is out there meeting people and trying.  Who is honest about what she wants and needs.

Random tangent – I know about a half dozen people who are in various stages of messy break-ups and divorces. The world brought another one into my life last night, which is what made me think of this.  Can I just say how happy I am that I am NOT in the middle of a breakup right now.  And that, even in my messiest and most emotionally exhausting breakups there were no kids or mortgages to deal with or fight over.  I don’t, by the way, consider any of those folks failures.  I just feel so very bad that there is so much pain in their lives.  And I feel fortunate that I’ve been spared that pain.

*Speaking of the blog’s relative success – I’m always trying to reach new readers.  If you’re a fan of the blog, please consider stumbling in, digging in, tweeting it, facebooking it… whatever it is you do to tell people about something you like.


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12 to “It Was a Very Good Year (?)”


  1. Singlegal says:

    Congrats on one year of your blog! And I know my life is richer because you’re in it. And I agree that I am very glad, too, to not be navigating icky relationship waters. Once this year was enough for me!

  2. LeJa says:

    Congrats on your blog become one year old this weekend. I have enjoyed reading about you dating life and it has sparked some conversations between friends. Thanks for making your writing so enjoyable.

  3. AF says:

    This is a great blog and you do it very well. For what it’s worth, I don’t think ANYTHING you’ve done that you’ve reported on here has been a failure either. So, on that we agree. I do think that if a relationship (whether short or an LTR) is seen as probably finite from the start then it’s a lot easier to end when it’s run its course. The breakup is still hard of course, especially if you’ve had enough and the other half hasn’t, but I don’t think any of us should ever be sorry we got into a relationship that went bad – we lived, we loved (maybe) and it went sour. So what? As the old quote goes, it’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. It’s life for god’s sake! The only thing we should any of us be sorry about is if we hung around wasting our all too short lives when we knew it was done. That’s sad and, in my book, a real waste.

  4. Tales From A Bar Stool says:

    Congratulations on your one year. I just stumbled across your blog a couple of weeks ago and love it! It’s refreshing to read about someone’s dating life, someone who doesn’t take things too seriously, who tells it like it is. Keep it up!

  5. lostplum says:

    Congrats on a YEAR! Happy Blog Birthday :)xo

  6. alfabeta says:

    Happy Anniversary Simone!!!!

  7. bobmatnyc says:

    Congrats on your first year! Wishing you many returns.

  8. Nana Ataa says:

    You Go Girl! So proud of you…Keep it up, and keep it moving.

  9. My Kafkaesque Life says:

    I’m new here, but still wish you best of luck. I’m glad to find someone who’s still passionate about blogging even after 1 year. I think I need to read a blog like yours now. I broke up recently and it’s like grieving. I just can’t pick up myself. I’m a guy who’s into serious relationships and we don’t have the ‘dating culture’ in Europe like you have in the USA. Anyway, looking forward to your new posts.

  10. dazediva says:

    It’s Sunday and HAPPY BLOG-ANNIVERSARY =)

    Every since I came across your blog a few months ago – I’m totally hooked and absolutely admire your upfront and fresh style of writing … You have the ability to engage your reader and pull them into your private life as if they were your closest friend … I feel honoured that I get to be a part of your life in such a busy world

    Have a lovely day :)

  11. Little Lushie says:

    Congratulations on your one year anniversary. I am a new reader but am thoroughly enjoying the reading. What was the main reason you started this?

  12. Simone Grant says:

    Thank you everyone for your constant encouragement. I most certainly wouldn’t be doing this if it weren’t for your support and feedback. And I’m SO NOT just saying that.