First dates. Let’s face it, they’re weird. You get together with someone you don’t know (in my case, usually over drinks) to hang out/talk/get to know each other a little bit while you’re each thinking the same thing: Is this someone I want to have sex with?
Because, really, that’s what chemistry is. At it’s most basic level. And that’s the main thing most of us check for on first dates. Chemistry. Do I or don’t I want to fuck this person? Maybe not tonight (probably not tonight, if I want there to be future dates…) but eventually.
Sure, there are other things we check for too. I have my laundry list (kindness, a great dad if he has kids, smart as hell…). We all have our laundry lists. But without chemisty I find it hard to get excited about seeing a guy again.
Which doesnt mean I won’t accept a second date if there’s no chemistry on the first. Sometimes I do. And I’m not sure why. Or if this is a good thing. Really, I’m pretty damn confused about it.
Just recently I wrote about a case where this happened. And there have been many others. First dates that were perfectly fine and the guy seemed nice enough and so I said yes to a second date even though there was no chemistry between us. There’s a part of me that believes that chemistry can come later. And a part that thinks that, nope, that’s just impossible. It’s either there or it’s not.
What do you think? Is chemistry always there from the very start, or can it blossom and bloom after two people meet?
- It has to be there in the beginning. If it’s not there on day one, it’s never going to come. (39 votes)
- Chemistry can develop between two people as they get to know one another. (71 votes)
- I’m not sure. (14 votes)
- Other. Please explain in the comments. (6 votes)
Tags: chemistry, first date, second date, sex