Yesterday’s post by Single Black Male hit close to home for me. It’s title is, Why You Don’t Have a Man #4729: He Just Doesn’t Want A Relationship. I will admit that in my younger day I was one of those women who thought I could change a man. That if a guy liked me enough then suddenly he’d want a relationship – with me.
Don’t worry, I don’t believe that anymore. Nowaday, I take that shit at face value. A guy who says (either in words or deeds) that he doesn’t want a relationship doesn’t have a place in my life (unless I’m shopping for a fuckbuddy, which is actually how I got the one I have – but that’s for another post).
Anyway, I thought it was a great post. Funny and to the point.
The thing that really jumped out at me was this.
At any point in time, a guy who desires to be single can be one of two … and only two different types of “single”.
- I don’t want a girlfriend … right now
- I don’t want a girlfriend … PERIOD! (50 is the new 20!)
Now, I’ve heard that 50 is the new 20 thing before, but I can’t remember where. I tried googling it, but came up with nothing worthwhile.
Here’s what I think when I hear it: a guy at 50 – note I said a guy – can screw around and live like a 20 year old. He’s still considered a “hot catch” on the singles market. I realize this is location specific. That those are the rules in NYC and LA and a handful of other cities and maybe not so much in other places.
And so some men would rather live a playboy/bachelor lifestyle for as long as they can. And I’m not judging them. I’m just stating a fact. That some 50 year old men are really “like 20” year olds. Which I realize sounds judgmental, but heck, I kinda live a lot like a 20 year myself.No tags for this post.