I’ve been dating for a long time. A looong time. Some might say, too long.
I don’t like to put numbers on it all. That’d be crass. But in my many years of dating, there have been quite a few men who I went out with more than just 3 or 4 times. In other words, men I’ve had relationships with. They weren’t all boyfriends, some were other things (other things may include: fuck buddies, friends with benefits, the guys you hope will turn into boyfriends but never do, the guys who hope you turn into a girlfriend, casual relationships, and anything else I’m forgetting to list here). But some were boyfriends and there were even a couple I kinda loved.
When I think back on all of those guys, it’s pretty clear that I was dating the same guy, or the same type of guy, over and over. There are only a few men who stand out from the crowd, and in each of those cases I knew that I was going out of my way to date against type (one of them was Mr. Potential, btw). I’ve written about this before.
I was thinking about this last night as I sat and listened to Funky Brown Chick tell me about her meeting with a matchmaker. One of the things she did was talk a lot about her exes and “her type” and post meeting she even sent the matchmaker pics of a bunch of her exes. And that seeing them all lined up, pictures in a group like that, made her realize just how similar they all really were (in ways that hadn’t occurred to her prior).
In her case, there were physical similarities amongst the exes. In my case, not so much. Well, a little bit (not that I’m sitting around looking at their pictures. I’m relyng on my memory for this.).
What about you? Are you dating the same person over and over again? Do you walk into a room and, for example, only notice the blondes?
This week’s poll question is easy and straightforward. I hope that people can be honest with their answers. Do you have a type (physical or personality)?
- Yes. I absolutely have a type. (54 votes)
- I don’t think so. I’ve fallen for many different types. (43 votes)
- Other. Please explain in the comments. (6 votes)
Tags: exes, matchmaker, polls