I can’t think of single girlie mag or dating/sex/romance focused website that hasn’t done a piece on long-distance relationships in the past few months. They’ve ranged from, Strategies to Make Your LDR Work, to Why LDRs Never Work. It makes sense. It’s a timeless topic, especially for single women (some of whom may have to move for work or school or meet men online etc).
Personally, I have a long and checkered past with long-distance relationships. Some I’ve told you about in detail and others I’ve just hinted at. Last week I wrote about one of my shorter LDR disaster stories, after which there were many comments of the, “I don’t date long-distance either” variety, and a few (mostly private) “I’m in a very successful LDR, you should keep an open mind” messages.
Here’s my thing with long-distance distance relationships: I know they can work. I’m certain of it. I’ve seen it with my own eyes. But I also know that it requires extra effort and care and communication. Above and beyond what a regular relationship requires. Which is a lot. And I know that most couples just aren’t up to the task.
And I also know that, gulp, I have (several times) allowed the distance to play tricks with my mind. When I’m not actually which a person on a regular basis I start to fill in details. Start to imagine things that aren’t real. Start to fantasize and idealize in a very unhealthy way. I know I’m not alone in this. One of my recent guest authors wrote about this quite eloquently.
I’d like to avoid ever having that happen again.
Anyway, I’d like to know where you stand. Some of my readers are in healthy relationships (imagine that) so this is a theoretical question.
Would you be open to a long-distance relationship? Do you think you could make one work?
- Yes. I know it could be hard but if I really liked a person it would be worth the effort. (23 votes)
- No. I just don’t see that working for me. (30 votes)
- Maybe, it would depend on the situation. (27 votes)
- Other. Please explain in the comments. (3 votes)
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