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The Things I Remember (A Memory of Naked Dating)

I’d forgotten all about this.  Probably because most of my memories from this relationship are not happy ones. Sometimes it’s just better to let go of sadness.

Anyways, it was a few years ago.  I’d met this man who I liked quite a bit.  I didn’t think, from the start, that the was going to “go” anywhere.  There was just something inherently impermanent to it.

I had plans to go away for a long weekend a week into us seeing each other.  My flight was on a Friday afternoon and I’d taken the day off so that I could sleep in and then have time to pack.

He knew that I was a chronic oversleeper.  He’d started to call me in the mornings on his way to to tease me about it(he had a reverse commute, going from the city out to one of the ‘burbs) and I was frequently just getting up when he called (his day started much earlier than mine).

That Friday he was working from home (which I didn’t know).  A few minutes after I woke up there was a knock on my door.  I was completely freaked out because I live in and no one ever knocks on your apt door on Friday mornings in .  I asked who it was and the answer was, “it’s the police”.  He tried to disguise his voice (he’s not American) but did a crappy NY accent.

I rushed to the bathroom to run a brush through my hair and laughed in the mirror (seriously, I’d just rolled out of bed – luckily I had already brushed my teeth and washed my face) and answered the door.  I asked him what the hell he was doing there and he said he wanted to see what I looked like in the morning – at this point he hadn’t yet.  We’d had sex, once, but he didn’t spend the night.  I wasn’t ready for that with him yet.

Anyway, I let him in and let’s just say that his pushiness/oddness/bizarre desire to see me look like shit was well rewarded.  I just barely made my flight.


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6 to “The Things I Remember (A Memory of Naked Dating)”


  1. lostplum says:

    I’m so the opposite. I have such an issue with people showing up. Not only would I have not let him in, I def. wouldn’t make his showing up worth his while, infact I prob. wouldn’t talk to him after that period!

  2. CrystalHerb says:

    I probably wouldn’t have answered the door!!

  3. tcup says:

    Haha. This was a really cute story! I actually LOVE surprise visits. It’s good to feel missed, especially by someone you’re interested in.

  4. Veka says:

    I love surprises too. I would have made him wait though, at least for me to freshen up a bit!

  5. LPS says:

    Haha! Yes, that’s really cute story! I’m sure you didn’t look horrible. Quite the opposite – since it had such a desirable effect on him! :)

  6. Simone Grant says:

    -lostplum
    If you asked me how I felt about drop-bys I probably would say I hated them. But there was something about the way he did it first thing in the morning. I don’t know. It was kind of hot in a totally not hot way.
    -CrystalHerb
    I’m sure that thought crossed my mind. But I did like him quite a bit – then.
    -tcup :-) Oh, I don’t think he missed me. I just think he wanted to get laid before I left town for the weekend. We just saw each other a day earlier.
    -Veka
    Yeah, I probably should’ve. But as I recall he was knocking and being impatient.
    -LPS
    Oh, I looked horrible. He just didn’t care. Or didn’t notice.