I’m sure I’ve mentioned this before – my memory is good for shit. I’d say it’s early senility, because I am getting old and that’s almost a legit excuse, but my friends and family know better, My memory is actually severely affected by some medicine I have to take. It’s not something I’m happy about, or comfortable saying more about here, but it’s a pretty big issue in my life so I figured I’d put it out there.
Anyway, there was something I wanted to write about ages ago, but I guess I forgot to write it down and then I forgot about it. You should see my apartment. Stickies everywhere. But no sticky for this. Luckily, Lostplum write about last week and jostled my memory.
Back when she and I went to Dating Bootcamp, Matt said men look back at their past relationships and think of all the negatives whereas women look back at their past relationships and think of all of the positives. Here’s Lostplum’s take on this. Which is very similar to mine – um, no. Not for me, anyway.
When I look back at my past relationships, I’m thinking of the negatives (the only positive I think of, and this is a constant, is the lots of sex on a regular basis). In fact, that’s why I’m so cautious and picky (yeah, I said it, I’m picky and I should be picky, goddamnit) when it comes to men and potential future boyfriends. I’m not looking back fondly on how great it was to be in a relationship. I’m looking back and thinking, lord that was a freaking nightmare.
So here’s my list of the week. The stuff of my nightmares. My 5 Least Favorite Things About Relationships:
- Compromise means me giving up what I want/need and him getting what he wants/needs
- Over the course of the relationship my self-esteem will go down, as I start to doubt myself and my self worth
- I will enthusiastically support his every whim and project and will probably reorganize my life and schedule around him. He might remember to ask me about my work a couple times a month.
- He will lie to me.
- He will take me for granted.
Ah, good times.
Tags: dating bootcamp, memory, Relationships